Getting back with Ex's - Page 3

JaBlue · #21 09-28-2005, 03:58 AM

findum, fuckum, flee

newfant · #22 09-28-2005, 04:16 AM

You may be in that [censored] up place where you've found a girl you could potentially settle down with, but you just aren't emotionally ready for it. If you had met this girl when you were 25 or 30 as opposed to early in life, things likely would work out better between you.

My advice would be to try and move on as much as possible. Get out there and meet other chicks. I think if you try to get back together she will continue to put pressure (even if it's not overt) on you to get married and you will rebel because you aren't ready for it.

chuddo · #23 09-28-2005, 04:23 AM

this is true about this being a terrible spot. and good advice.

Tanach · #24 09-28-2005, 04:40 AM

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You may be in that [censored] up place where you've found a girl you could potentially settle down with, but you just aren't emotionally ready for it.

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[censored]. I think you are exactly right.

Tanach · #25 09-28-2005, 11:41 AM

bump for the morning crowd.

lucas9000 · #26 09-28-2005, 11:43 AM

she might change for a little while after you get back together, but she's not changing how she is for good, even if she wants to.

jakethebake · #27 09-28-2005, 11:45 AM

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Have you been laid since the breakup?

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No, but I don't think this is the reason.

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It's the reason.

jakethebake · #28 09-28-2005, 11:47 AM

If you get back together and she hasn't changed, what do you lose? You've broken up once. It'll be easier the second time. And you'll get some lovin' out of it. And maybe she's ralized what was wrong and make an effort to do it better the second time.

IndieMatty · #29 09-28-2005, 12:01 PM

Welcome to the club. Apparently this never works out. Good luck!

#30 09-28-2005, 12:08 PM

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If you get back together and she hasn't changed, what do you lose? You've broken up once. It'll be easier the second time. And you'll get some lovin' out of it. And maybe she's ralized what was wrong and make an effort to do it better the second time.

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I think you lose a little bit of dignity and throw your heart for a whirl again. It doesn't sound like this guy is having no strings attached sex for a few months and then just dropping it.

For the OP, I know you like kurosh's little story of hope but there is a big difference between 1 year and 3 months. She's telling you bullshit about changing already. After a year and another relationship she might have actually changed like Kurosh's girl. It's too soon to go back, open up your eyes and hit something else (seriously, deliberately go out and find some little freak in bed for a one night stand)