Opinions please: Maxim Magazine & My teenage son

[PokerFink]

I think you're overreacting. 15 is plenty old enough to be exposed to porn, assuming he isn't going over the top with hardcore bondage type stuff. I looked at porn all through highschool, and I've grown up to be very respectful of women and mature when it comes to sex etc. Tell Mommy to back off.

As a Maxim reader, let me say that a lot of the stuff in Maxim will be over his head. I enjoyed it back in highschool, but I also have an older brother and HBO, so I probably had a better-than-average understanding of the adult themes in Maxim for a young teen. And frankly, what's the difference between looking at boobs, and looking at boobs that are covered up by a thin lacy bra? Like the bra makes it less corrupting?

[mason55]

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Well, I don't mean that BDSM is inherently wrong, but if he's into weird stuff, you should probably have a talk about appropriate sexual behavior (i.e. don't [censored] dogs or beat women while you're screwing them).

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Word. Maybe he could buy him a leather hood or some leg shackles too?

[PoBoy321]

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He's 14. He's probably already having sex. Let the kid view some goddamn porn.

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Kids are screwing around in grade school these days. It's kinda messed up. But yeah, if you're worried about him getting viruses on the computer or staining your desk chair or whatever, understandable. It's perfectly normal and natural for him to be looking at porn, and as a matter of fact, I'd probably be more worried if he wasn't interested in that stuff.

[Duke]

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If he's looking at 8 year old girls with dogs, or BDSM type stuff, then you just have to to have a conversation about what appropriate sexual behavior is.

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I thought you were supposed to encourage your child's interests?

Seriously though, what's wrong with BDSM if that's what he's into?

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He's 15. He's not 'into' anything.

That's the problem with the "don't look at porn" mindset when applied to kids. It leaves you absolutely no room for guidance in the matter, and you never know what fetish of the week he'll think is normal.

If you try to prevent him from looking at all porn, which is a logistical impossibility anyhow, you can never say: "Yeah, bukkake and piss videos aren't normal, and only a small percentage of people actually do that sort of thing."

This is all assuming that your son is not R Kelly.

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[PokerFink]

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I find it strange that two things are happening simultaneously:

1: You won't let your 15 year old kid look at porn
2: You are asking for parenting advice on a internet gambling messageboard.

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vnh

[istewart]

It is imperative that you allow him to find Aurora Snow and Sylvia Saint.

[FishBurger]

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[PoBoy321]

You should be shot.

[Felix_Nietsche]

One of my fond memories as a teenager was discovering my father's Playboy Magazine collection underneath his bed. It always amazed me that in many of the women's bios they were only slightly older than I was at the time.... The temptation of forbidden fruit is rather intoxicating for teenagers on massive hormone overdrive...

With regard to internet porn, much of it is pretty twisted stuff. Banning that is a good idea. My recommendation would have been for hubby to get Playboy, let son see him reading it, and 'hide' it under his bed. Being a smart son, he will find it. Playboy is pretty tasteful about the female body.

As for Maxim, I know a girl who LOVES Maxim magazine BUT....she feels ashamed buying it so more than one time she has asked me to buy it for her... Maxim does has articles on sex but it is better your son get it from Maxim than some of those sick-twisted internet sites...

[Felix_Nietsche]

I'm NOT going to report you (because i'm too lazy) but if someone else did....hint...hint...hint....

I would be support their efforts.