Should I force my Mom's Hand????

[Blarg]

His supporting her this way would be a lot more fair if he were done with school. He's got enough money drainage and pressure as it is.

[Dave G.]

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His supporting her this way would be a lot more fair if he were done with school. He's got enough money drainage and pressure as it is.

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It'd be a lot fairer if his brother and sister were helping, too.

[Blarg]

Yeah, looks like that ceased being an option long ago, though.

get drunk and call her

[HopeydaFish]

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get drunk and call her

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At least you didn't go with "SIIHP". Thank god for small mercies.

My advice to BigSteve is that he needs to get his name on that deed. Give her an ultimatum -- either she hands over the house to him so that he's not getting *totally* hosed, or he moves out and she loses the house anyway. She doesn't have any power in this situation -- except for emotional blackmail, which is what is obviously going on here.

[LeatherFace]

You have to tell your mom you love her but as long as your paying the bills you are allowed to bring cock back home with you.

[Argus]

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You have to tell your mom you love her but as long as your paying the bills you are allowed to bring cock back home with you.

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This is the best advice I've seen in this thread. You're in a real tough spot, and I don't know the relationship you have with your mother, but something has to change. It sounds like moving out would really hurt her financially and perhaps leave her unable to get by.

Since giving up your life for an old lady's is just as terrible as kicking your mom out onto the street, you have to sit down and tell your mom that since you pay all the bills you can live as if it is your house. Give her an ultimatum, and hope she chooses whatever will make her happiest.

[SossMan]

she is a perfect candidate for a reverse mortgage.

[TimM]

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she is a perfect candidate for a reverse mortgage.

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She refinanced with one of those 125% equity loans. She actually owes more that it is worth.

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If you have any debt against your home, you must either
pay it off before getting a reverse mortgage or - this is
what most borrowers do - use an immediate cash advance
from the reverse mortgage to pay it off. If you don't pay off
the debt beforehand, or do not qualify for a large enough
immediate cash advance to do so, you cannot get a reverse
mortgage.

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The good news: You are already going to hell, so treating your mother badly can't hurt you. [img]/images/graemlins/shocked.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/tongue.gif[/img]

Your mother is basically broke. If she owes more than the house is worth, then it would be tough to sell, having to come up with the difference. She really isn't selling, just moving.
If you do move out, how will she live? Will you still have to pay her bills in a new place? Is she capable of supporting herself? if she were out of debt (bankruptcy)? The point is that just moving out of the house may not change anything.

At some point you need to do what is right for you. Can you get here to talk to someone (doctor, grief counselor, minister) to get her to move on emotionally? While being supportive is good, there is a point where it becomes dependence. That isn't fair to you.

And you definitly need to talk to your siblings to get them to chip in financially and to support that you aren't the permanent solution, just a temporary one.
If you decide that you need to move out, set a date and go. Tell your mom to call them if she needs help.

And what is it with gay guys and their mothers? [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]