Family situation, need some advice

[gorie]

[ QUOTE ]
Agree to fix the truck if the title will be transferred to you. Then sell it.

[/ QUOTE ]
nice.
even without selling it, it's a smart idea.

edit: nevermind, paying car insurance sucks. so yeah, sell it.

[SippinSoma]

Pay for the damage. Ask your parents to transfer the cell phone, truck, and car insurance to your name. Pay for it yourself.

[Stu Pidasso]

[ QUOTE ]
My mom insists I pay for this bumper before college starts or she will sell my truck. I am tired of my possessions from their side of the family being used as a leverage point.


[/ QUOTE ]

You have to decide if the ultility gained by using those possessions is worth enduring the attached strings. If it isn't then stop using them. If it is then stop whining about it. Take comfort in knowing that what ever path you take will be brighter than the spot your at now.

Stu

[ClaytonN]

Regarding sentimental value, the truck used to belong to my grandfather, who passed away almost four years ago.

gorie: I have not had a real legitimate cell phone until 3-4 days ago. The cell phone I had since 16 was only for emergency phone calls, and got a very small amt. of minutes per month. Thanks to the hope scholarship, my education and my books at college are free, but my father is taking care of room and board + food plan. My mom and stepdad have put $0.00 towards my college education.

Getting immediately cut down to $1750 still sucks, even though the figure isnt' that bad. Even though I'm tight with my money, that's a good bit of spare change in my eyes, maybe not to some of you. I am my own person now and I'm not going to take this [censored] anymore when I'm in college, and I'm perfectly willing to give up this truck ('94 nissan) to prove my point.

they want to use my truck while I'm at college to ease the burden on their lives (even though they already have 1 van, a BMW, and a Honda).

I just wrote an e-mail as nicely as I could explaining I wasn't gonna fix the truck, and basically put the ball in their court. We'll see how it goes.

[Paluka]

I'd like to hear who is paying for college, you or your parents?

[Shilly]

Your mom and step-dad are [censored] ridiculous.

It seriously infuriates me when I hear stuff like this. You worked your ass off and paid for your college education, and they can't even pay $350 [censored] dollars to fix your vehicle? I don't really have any advice or solution to your problem, but you have my sympathy.

[MEbenhoe]

[ QUOTE ]
a big hit to my net worth going into the college year (cost $350, I have about $2100).

[/ QUOTE ]

You need to stop referring to the amount of money you have as your net worth.

[ClaytonN]

fine, will you stake me for .02-.04 NLHE, please?

[[censored]]

[ QUOTE ]
1) If the registration is in your mom's name it's not yours and it never was.

2) Stop accepting gifts that come with strings (ie: If they buy you something that's not in your name, like a vehicle or cell phone contract, man up and tell them to buy you a real gift instead of giving you a loan).

3) Call their bluff on selling the truck - Good luck on them getting much of anything for it in the current condition and are they really going to want to sink money into the repairs just in order to sell it.

4) If they do sell it and you really need a vehicle next year, buy a beater to get you around until you're done with school.

Alternately, do you know anyone (ie: non-jerkish relative) who would be willing to lend you the $300 until next year?

[/ QUOTE ]

It's weird that there are responses after this one but there is.

[DavidC]

[ QUOTE ]

What's my line?

[/ QUOTE ]

Depending on what the truck is worth (and whether or not this will incur taxation), agree to fix the bumper, but ask that the vehicle be registered in your name, under your ownership.

Good luck at college, bro. Have a good time.

A lot of families have these "conditional gift" things happening, you're not alone (but holy [censored] does it ever suck!).

I guess the ideal solution is to have infinite money... if you figure out how to do that too, then give me infinite money too (don't worry, you'll still have infinite money left over).