How do you feel about people outright asking you for money?

[4_2_it]

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I can't imagine anyone winning this amount of money and not giving a good chunk to their parents. That's beyond me.


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I commend you for your generosity. I think most people would see that their parents and close relatives were taken care of. The definition of 'taken care of' will vary based upon individual circumstances.

Here's an interesting twist: If your parents or uncle won the $400 million, would it be your expectation that they cut you a check for $50 million because they have more than enough to live on? I will predict your answer would be, "Of course not." If so, rethink my previous posts and see if you get where I am coming from.

[Jorge10]

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Who ever said I was trying to make the most financially sound stradegy? I would be trying to create the highest level of happiness for all the important people in my life.


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Thats what MC Hammer said and look at him now, im just saying...

[Greg (FossilMan)]

Goodie, you're making a common mistake. You think that if you think something is the right thing to do, then everybody should think it is the right thing to do. And then you're casting dispersions on us for not feeling as you feel.

If I had given my parents a check for 1M, they would have torn it up and told me not to do that again. They would be more insulted than happy with my offer. They would appreciate the offer, but would want to know why I'm giving money to them when they're perfectly well off on their own. Yet you assume something different to be the case, because this is not in alignment with YOUR life, and the way YOU see things.

As I said in my prior post, if my parents ever need anything, I will do anything I can to help them. That was true before I won a lot of money, and it's still true now. But for me to just give them a bunch of money, well, I don't think that would make them happy. Some people think you should earn what you have, and are not comfortable with things they haven't earned. Maybe you and your family don't feel that way. Maybe me and my family do feel that way. Does that make me selfish, or does that make you lazy? No, it doesn't.

Some historical figure said something about good intentions. Something like there's nothing worse than a man of conviction with good intentions, and how such a man is much more trouble than a a man who is merely evil. Good intentions cause more trouble, in the end, they say. Probably because it's easy to fight and gain support to oppose somebody who is evil, but how to you oppose somebody with good intentions who is mistaken? Much harder to do. Your intentions may be good, but I think your implementation of those intentions would cause more harm than good to your family and close friends.

Somebody will surely chime in and give us an accurate quote for my poor memory. Thanks in advance for doing so.

Later, Greg Raymer (FossilMan)

[GrunchCan]

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I would be trying to create the highest level of happiness for all the important people in my life.


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So money can buy happiness now?

Funny, I thought it only bought gratification.

[drewjustdrew]

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If you can make thier lives better and it wouldn't hurt you a bit, why exactly wouldn't you do that?


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Because you have to know where to draw the line. If you start doling out, you have to explain various levels of respect and love ($$$$) to people who are important to you.

What if you were born into money? Would you be giving money to friends you meet in your life just because it won't hurt you? It doesn't work that way.

[Goodie54]

My wife and I discussed this. We would give a good portion more to our parents and siblings and the rest would be cut up evenly.

I really can't imagine having this amount of money and still watching everyone important to you have to deal with the trials and tribulations of a full time job and struggling to make ends meet. That doesn't make sense to me.

Peace

Goodie

Greg with all due respect, if you didnt give your parents a buttload of money, you need to rethink your priorities. Seriously man, im happy you won, i really am, i was pulling for you since day 2 of the ME, but when you say "i'll do what I can to help if they need anything" thats just messed up. Anyway, congrats on all your winnings, and maybe see you at Casino AZ or the Fort if your ever in AZ. Later

[Jorge10]

Well its obviuous you are a gimmick account, but anyway.

If I had a dollar for every story I read of guys developing drinking problems, getting divorced, or just screwing up their lives after winning the lottery itd have those 100 million already.

If you just give people a bunch of money its going to be really bad and you might say, but they are getting a bunch of money how can it be bad? Well money usually changes people, there are very few that can stay grounded.

Also as Greg said, if you give someone money then someone else gets angry that you didnt give them money, and its a never ending chain of anger and jealousy not really directed at you, but at the people that got money.

The reality is this, life isnt that simple as ill just give millions of dollars away and everyone will be happy. Life is much much more complex than that. Giving someone money will just make them quit everything and decide that they want to do nothing, but just live off the money you gave them. I like what Greg said, buy them a house, pay their tuition, do something positive for them, but dont just give them money randomly if they dont need it, it will only make things much worse.

[DrSavage]

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[Luke]

C'mon man, it's like rule nombre uno:

"never let no one know
How much, dough you hold, cause you know
The cheddar breed jealousy, specially
If that man f_cked up, get your _ss stuck up"