girls hate dating online players... - Page 2

EliteNinja · #11 03-04-2005, 03:02 AM

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tell her that anything you buy her (and DO buy her nice stuff) is from poker.. and that if she wants you to stop - fine, but then she should not expect the restaurants, shopping, movies, gifts, etc b/c you will not be able to afford it

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Bahahah
Nice one.

The Truth · #12 03-04-2005, 05:53 AM

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tell her that anything you buy her (and DO buy her nice stuff) is from poker.. and that if she wants you to stop - fine, but then she should not expect the restaurants, shopping, movies, gifts, etc b/c you will not be able to afford it

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That is more -EV than hookers.

As for the post, just quit playin online poker, more money for me [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

jason_t · #13 03-04-2005, 06:15 AM

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i'm dating a girl that doesnt approve of my playing. she thinks its gambling which is negative. at best she thinks its an unhealthy hobby and i should be spending some or all this time with her.

any thoughts on how to get out of this jam and still get laid? i'm looking to keep playing the same amount (~25 yrs/week) but not lose the good parts of dating. this isnt the first time a girl has been anti-online poker.

any thoughts?

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If you can't convince her that it's not a negative and she doesn't understand what it means to you, drop her. She'll only harp on you about it forever, and she'll feel it gives her the authority to criticize you in many other aspects of your life. There are girls out there not like this; find one.

Also, it's good to be open about your poker playing up front.

TwoShedsJackson · #14 03-04-2005, 06:27 AM

A) Find a girl who approves, or who appreciates that you want to do something she doesn't nessecarily approve of, occasionally.

B) Continue having the name and avatar of one of the greatest football players ever [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

Bluffoon · #15 03-04-2005, 08:35 AM

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i'm dating a girl that doesnt approve of my playing. she thinks its gambling which is negative. at best she thinks its an unhealthy hobby and i should be spending some or all this time with her.

any thoughts on how to get out of this jam and still get laid? i'm looking to keep playing the same amount (~25 yrs/week) but not lose the good parts of dating. this isnt the first time a girl has been anti-online poker.

any thoughts?

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Easy. Find a girl who doesn't mind. This isn't the only one who lt you bend her over, okay? There are plenty of others out there.

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Bingo

YoureToast · #16 03-04-2005, 09:38 AM

This is very important. The way you handle is will directly affect your happiness and income in the near and distant future, so don't f&!@ it up. Tell her and reinforce to her that poker is and will be a part of your life and that she better get used to it. If she still doesn't like it, the relationship will blow up, but thats OK -- better than the alternative. I had a blow up with my wife about 6 months ago and basically told her the same thing -- it made all the difference in the world to be direct, honest, forthright and firm -- key "firm". If you're wishy-washy at all about it (like, because you fear losing her), you are destined to be constantly fighting this battle and dare I say generally miserable.

PS. Please follow up and let us know exactly what you say the next time you address it and what her reaction was.

irongarden · #17 03-04-2005, 10:32 AM

1BB on a $10/$20 table = rental girlfriend in Bangkok for 24 hurs

Fast Eddy · #18 03-04-2005, 12:24 PM

If she doesn't support you in your favorite hobby, she's probably not right for you.

Maybe try asking her what hobby she would approve of. If she can come up with an answer, promptly point out that the other hobby costs lots of money whereas poker pays the bills(assuming you're a winning player).

PokerFink · #19 03-04-2005, 12:36 PM

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If you can't convince her that it's not a negative and she doesn't understand what it means to you, drop her. She'll only harp on you about it forever, and she'll feel it gives her the authority to criticize you in many other aspects of your life. There are girls out there not like this; find one.

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Agreed. Be a man and tell her "this is important to me." Tell her why. Women respect a man who is willing to put his foot down and (calmly) tell them that something is important.

If you do the above and she isn't willing to listen, then perhaps she isn't right for you.

Oh, and while I woulden't recommend the half-boob-job, that was a hilarious idea. [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

Los Feliz Slim · #20 03-04-2005, 12:50 PM

My wife is not a big fan of the online poker and it is/was a source of tension, enough that I needed a plan to deal with it.

First, are there things she likes to do that you don't? For us, it's my wife's love of reality TV. I can't stand it, she'll watch it until her eyeballs fall out. So, we set aside time that she watches her crap and I play online poker.

Second, are you a winning player? If so, share the loot. It seems silly, but she will be far less likely to think you are frittering away your time if she's getting fancy dinners and jewelry out of the deal. You're not bribing her exactly, you're proving your activity's worth and sharing it with her. I've also given a good portion of my winnings to my grandmother-in-law, which goes over great. If you're not a winning player and you play that much, stop playing, you're wasting your time.

Finally, realize that compromise is the essence of any relationship.

Maybe this response was too serious, but I'm sure I'm not the only one who has had to address this.