Wedding Registry-- who, what, why - Page 2

M2d · #11 10-20-2005, 04:49 PM

the key is to register at a place where you shop anyway and to register for anything and everything. if you think you might want it, register for it.

a big place like macy's will take it back and you'll have credit. if your list is too limited, guests may not be able to find anything in their price range and might go the on-sale-at-Ross route of everyday flatware. if you get some ugly candlestick holder at macy's, though, you'll easily be able to return it for credit, and be able to use it for clothes, or whatever down the line (or even other wedding gifts).
An added benefit for you is that you don't have a house yet. I'm assuming that storage is limited, and a nice flat giftcard that you get from returns is much easier to store than an unreturnable vase from joe's discount mart.

StevieG · #12 10-20-2005, 05:02 PM

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This (plus making sure to list things of differing prices) is great advice. You may be surprised by how many people are generous to you. It's a once in a lifetime kind of thing, too. Go ahead and list it.

Plus, a lot of placees give you a discount after the wedding on items from the registry not purchased. Which means any cash gifts people give you can go further.

phage · #13 10-20-2005, 05:07 PM

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You may be surprised by how many people are generous to you. It's a once in a lifetime kind of thing, too. Go ahead and list it.

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I would say that this is a once in a lifetime kind of thing so don't abuse people's generosity...

peachy · #14 10-20-2005, 05:12 PM

Neiman Marcus

StevieG · #15 10-20-2005, 05:38 PM

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I would say that this is a once in a lifetime kind of thing so don't abuse people's generosity...

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Abusing generosity is when someone offers to take you to dinner and you start ordering caviar and truffle mousse.

Provided that you register with a variety of items so that people do not have to spend a lot of money on your gift, you should feel comfortable listing a lot of things on the registry.

Homer · #16 10-20-2005, 05:56 PM

Is it considered in poor taste to not register and ask for cash instead? Because right now, that's my plan.

phage · #17 10-20-2005, 06:03 PM

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Is it considered in poor taste to not register and ask for cash instead?

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I've always felt that it is bad taste to ask for cash. However it seems that this is becoming very popular.

AriesRam · #18 10-20-2005, 06:04 PM

Based on my experience, forget about the china/silverware crap. I've been married 3 1/2 years now, and the china has never even been unpacked. I'll be stunned if we use more than 5 times in our life.

Target, at least the stores around my area (St. Louis) have a lousy return policy. Namely, when you return something, you have to pick out a replacement item from the same department, that costs the exact same price, and you have to do it THAT DAY. No combining returns either, ie, if you return 2 $10 items, you cannot exchange these for one $20 item.

Actually my wife and I are going to a wedding this weekend and we bought the couple a Home Depot gift certificate.

Good luck.

Chobohoya · #19 10-20-2005, 06:05 PM

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I would say that this is a once in a lifetime kind of thing so don't abuse people's generosity...

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Abusing generosity is when someone offers to take you to dinner and you start ordering caviar and truffle mousse.

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Caviar is so good though... I figured I'd chime in here with an important update. We just received the first pieces of our china pattern:

I'm pumped.

Chobohoya · #20 10-20-2005, 06:14 PM

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Based on my experience, forget about the china/silverware crap. I've been married 3 1/2 years now, and the china has never even been unpacked. I'll be stunned if we use more than 5 times in our life.

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See above. But seriously, I can see myself using this stuff pretty often (once a week at least?). I love to cook, and we don't have a dishwasher, so why not go the fancy route sometimes?

Which brings me to my next point: we've already established a registry at a local (South East) jewelry store named Underwoods, Williams-Sonoma, and Pottery Barn. Given that we're expecting 225 people to come, and some (50-100?) to not be able to come but probably send something, should we branch out more, or just load up at those places?