Retooling (kinda long)

[Shajen]

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6. Last but not least is definitely my kids. I’m a good dad, but I want to be better. I’ll spend more time with them. I’ll do more things with them. I’ll find more patience and be more consistent.

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If you do nothing else on your list, do this.

I'm in a funk too man. I've got my future sorta mapped out, in I know what I want to do, but making it happen has been somewhat of a stop and start sputter.

I think it's the time of the year. I get up when it's dark and a lot of the time I come home when it's dark and that's [censored] with me right now. I get home and don't want to do much of anything.

Either way, good luck with this, Jake. Also, thanks for sharing this, it may just give me the kick in the ass I need to get going myself.

[Patrick del Poker Grande]

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Fitter,
happie,
more productive.

not drinking too much,
regular exercise at the gym
(3 days a week),
getting on better with your associate employee contemporaries ,
at ease,
eating well

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still cries at a good film,
still kisses with saliva,
no longer empty and frantic
like a cat
tied to a stick,
that's driven into
frozen winter [censored]
(the ability to laugh at weakness),
calm,
fitter,
healthier and more productive
a pig
in a cage
on antibiotics.

[mason55]

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Retooling

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Thank God this post isn't what I was worried it was going to be about.

[asofel]

Good luck Jake. It sounds like you really want these things and are willing to make the necessary changes. All the best.

[Stuey]

Good luck

It sounds like a lot of work. It isn't though I would bet there is one or 2 maybe 3 things that are causing the rest to suffer. I am going to take a guess if you don't mind but only to let you see how simple this could be.

Quit drinking totally and stop playing poker plus only use your computer when you are getting paid to do so.

You are burned out and these are the only 3 things that can do it imo. Stop them and the other problems solve themselves I bet. If the thought of quitting these things bothers you or sounds impossible that should tell you something as these are mundane activities in your life and you should want to stop them.

After you quit for awhile and everything comes back together and you get a clear picture of how much these things affected your life it is ok to start doing them again. But you will have a new respect for them and will be much more willing to limit them properly. 1hr of poker a day, 3 drinks once a week, oot while you eat lunch ect.

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[touchfaith]

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I don’t know about anyone else, but I go through this periodically. I’m in a funk and I’m not completely sure why. When I look at my life, I think yea, yea I’m really doing pretty much what I want to do. But I’m not doing any of it as well as I could or should be. Like Mitch Robbins said, “I’m not going to find a different job. I’m just going to do this one better.”

So anyway things like this seem to work better if you write them down someplace so here it is. This is not in order of priority.

1. My health-related activities have been irregular over the past year or so. I run and work out inconsistently, which is less than what I’ve been used to in the past. I’m not in bad shape, but not exactly where I want to be either. I’m usually a lot happier when my body works the way I want it to.

2. Do my job better. Part of it is all the time I spend on 00T so I’ll be cutting way back on my posting frequency, something that will make some of you very happy. I also just haven’t been getting things done because I haven’t really taken the time to make myself care to. I’m changing that.

3. I really like playing that unmentioned game at least a few of us here play. I quit playing limit awhile back because I really enjoyed no-limit and found out I was terrible at both when I switched back and forth. But I’ve decided I want to be more serious about this and I think it’s time for a change so I’m thinking of making that switch again. I’ll probably be spending quite a bit more time in the strategy forums. I actually lurk there now. But I may even post there occasionally.

4. I’m going to be a better person to my friends. I’ve been pretty selfish. As an example, last night I was talking to someone and realized I was doing something that’s not very nice. I’ve been saying things to people, mostly just making very unfunny jokes, w/o considering that the jokes themselves were about things that are pretty annoying. Actually the joke was described as “unnecessary” and it was. This was a bad habit I was in years ago. I had broken myself of it at one point, but started doing it again awhile back and I’m not sure why.

5. Cut back on my drinking. I'm convinced part of my current funk is caused by drinking too much. And the drinking to much has been caused by the funk. I haven't been drinking a lot, but it has been frequent. It's anaesthetic quality is attractive, but it just temporarily treats the symptoms and when I drink too much, I just make an ass of myself. I do that enough w/o the alcohol.

6. Last but not least is definitely my kids. I’m a good dad, but I want to be better. I’ll spend more time with them. I’ll do more things with them. I’ll find more patience and be more consistent.

I think if I focus on just those few things, I’ll be much happier and make other people happier too.

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LOL, the last and shortest paragraph and you finally mention kids and the wife it's zero billing...

Your problem isn't a 'funk', your problem is priorities...You have none.

You would rather spend all day and night here trying to hit on women you will never have a chance with instead of spending time with your family.

It's obvious and it's sad, but it's not you anyone feels sorry for, it's your "family".

Truth hurts huh...doesn't change it though.

[IndieMatty]

Except, I can think of like 20 instances where Jake relays good family stories, it seems he spends way more time with his kids than most parents I know (or mine did). I think that's why it is last. Because it needs the least improvement.

[touchfaith]

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Except, I can think of like 20 instances where Jake relays good family stories, it seems he spends way more time with his kids than most parents I know (or mine did). I think that's why it is last. Because it needs the least improvement.

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I like you Indie...but you are kidding right?

Unless he posts all day every day from a blackberry, it doesn't take an expert to see which of his loves gets first priority (OOT).

[tdarko]

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Cut back on my drinking. I'm convinced part of my current funk is caused by drinking too much

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you take care of this and the rest will start to fall in place.

i was a heavy drinker for years and always complained about a "funk" until i realized that i was my own funk. now other than the occasional wine with my meal i keep my life in order and couldn't be happier. good luck jake.

[jakethebake]

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Except, I can think of like 20 instances where Jake relays good family stories, it seems he spends way more time with his kids than most parents I know (or mine did). I think that's why it is last. Because it needs the least improvement.

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I wopuld actually talk more here about my kids, but I remember what it was like for me before I had them. Parents can tell the longerst, boringest "cute" stories that no one cares about. I don't want to be that guy.