Would you let your GF sleep in the same bed with another guy? - Page 16

pearljam · #**151** 07-29-2005, 02:35 PM

I guess I better post the results, thanks alot for the responces guys. Well what ended up happening was she blew off the air matress thing saying it would be inconvenient to blow it up every night. At that point I knew for sure there was no more meaningful relationship here. So I just said OK I understand. What I ended up deciding is that im going to continue to have the relationship just for the sex and companionship. But I am no longer seeking a a long term relatinoship with her even though it hurts to admit it.

HopeydaFish · #**152** 07-29-2005, 02:35 PM

Please, we have so little...we need you to tell us what happened.

Trust me, what OOT'ers will assume happened will be much worse than what really happened.

Whatever really happened, it won't be any worse than the guy who wants to screw his friend's 19 year old daughter, or Kurosh's girlfriend getting gangbanged while skinny dipping.

Edit: I see that you caved and spilled the beans. A little anti-climatic, though...but not that embarassing.

[censored] · #**153** 07-29-2005, 02:41 PM

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I guess I better post the results, thanks alot for the responces guys. Well what ended up happening was she blew off the air matress thing saying it would be inconvenient to blow it up every night. At that point I knew for sure there was no more meaningful relationship here. So I just said OK I understand. What I ended up deciding is that im going to continue to have the relationship just for the sex and companionship. But I am no longer seeking a a long term relatinoship with her even though it hurts to admit it.

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I think you should reconsider. You will feel much better about the situation looking back on if you don't let yourself get walked on. Also putting your foot down and being a man will turn her on more than anything.

In the end it's your life.

At the very least you should call her on her BS and tell her that you want to start seeing other people as well as her.

Perhaps its just me but the thought of some bitch thinking she is getting one over on me is intolerable.

Also you need to do some serious thinking about whether or not you can turn your feelings off. Otherwise you are going to end up sulking in room and driving yourself crazy thinking about what they are doing.

Patrick del Poker Grande · #**154** 07-29-2005, 02:43 PM

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I guess I better post the results, thanks alot for the responces guys. Well what ended up happening was she blew off the air matress thing saying it would be inconvenient to blow it up every night. At that point I knew for sure there was no more meaningful relationship here. So I just said OK I understand. What I ended up deciding is that im going to continue to have the relationship just for the sex and companionship. But I am no longer seeking a a long term relatinoship with her even though it hurts to admit it.

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How exactly did you say "OK I understand"? Was it exactly like that, or was it like "Alright, I understand. Make sure you use a rubber, dude, because I don't want to be catching any of that [censored] when I come over"?

Shajen · #**155** 07-29-2005, 02:44 PM

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I guess I better post the results, thanks alot for the responces guys. Well what ended up happening was she blew off the air matress thing saying it would be inconvenient to blow it up every night. At that point I knew for sure there was no more meaningful relationship here. So I just said OK I understand. What I ended up deciding is that im going to continue to have the relationship just for the sex and companionship. But I am no longer seeking a a long term relatinoship with her even though it hurts to admit it.

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I'm gonna throw the bullshit flag.

15 yards, roughing the testicles.

Dude, you are gonna get hurt. Badly. I don't know about anyone else on these boards, but "girlfriend" means exactly that. Now if you are morphing this into [censored] buddy, I still don't think it's worth it. She lives a good distance away from you. Not like you can call her up and hit it one night when you are bored.

Let it go, and move on. Completely. It's the only smart move here. If you don't, the feelings you have for her are gonna get you hurt.

pearljam · #**156** 07-29-2005, 02:45 PM

I meant I understood an air matress would be inconvenient and made off like its no big deal that they will be sleeping in the same bed.

PITTM · #**157** 07-29-2005, 02:59 PM

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I meant I understood an air matress would be inconvenient and made off like its no big deal that they will be sleeping in the same bed.

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worlds easiest dumping. make it easier, youre gonna get dumped after they bone anyways. its pretty sad but being in your situation would blow ass.

rj

[censored] · #**158** 07-29-2005, 03:05 PM

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I meant I understood an air matress would be inconvenient and made off like its no big deal that they will be sleeping in the same bed.

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worlds easiest dumping. make it easier, youre gonna get dumped after they bone anyways. its pretty sad but being in your situation would blow ass.

rj

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This is key. Either way there is going to be a dumping, the only thing in question is whether the OP gets to keep is self respect.

jackdaniels · #**159** 07-29-2005, 03:07 PM

I dont understand all the harshness of these posts after OP did what was exactly right to do.

He decided that he no longer has any long term plans for this girl but rather than just walking away from the kind of girl he has little or no chance of scoring with (he claims she is above his league) - he is simply planning on maintaining the sexual/other benefits fo the relationship.

As for her dumping him eventually - so what? Reminds me of a friend who was in a similar situation and when the girl finally dumped his ass, she made sure to tell him (in front of all his friends) that she never enjoyed the sex they had together. You know what he said? "So what, I got off". Moral of the story is that now that he has a correct grasp of where the relationship is going, he simply needs to maintain the parts of it that he likes and avoid the parts that he doesn't like (even if she will break up with him over it).

Aren't any of you married guys out there looking at this and thinking: "hmmm.... I do all this crap my wife wants me to do cause I care about the relationship and want it to continue - if I didn't care about the relationship, I would never do [insert crappy request from wife]" - well, he no longer has to.

Patrick del Poker Grande · #**160** 07-29-2005, 03:09 PM

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Aren't any of you married guys out there looking at this and thinking: "hmmm.... I do all this crap my wife wants me to do cause I care about the relationship and want it to continue - if I didn't care about the relationship, I would never do [insert crappy request from wife]"

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No. My wife knows her place.

Don't tell her I said that.