What has been your biggest mistake in life so far?

[krishanleong]

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im being serious...nothing in my life has ever been a mistake...the majority of people that think that way are very depressed people and arent happy with life...im not one of those people

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My wife is like you. Semantics and vocabulary aside, she means she wouldn't go back and do things differently. One part is because some of the bad stuff helped make her the person she is today with me.

Krishan

[ThisHo]

so the guy that got drunk, tried to drive home, ran a stop sign, hit a car with a mom and 3 kids (killing them all) didn't make a mistake?
How about the guy that beat his wife?
The mom that verbally abuses her kids on a regular basis?

Come on, this is total crap that "there are no mistakes" ... there are absolutely mistakes.

ThisHo

[zoomOut]

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no a mistake is something u regret to me...he could have made that choice and it might be a bad one by some peoples opinions...but he may not regret it...therefore its not a mistake

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Sometimes our choices are viewed by others as huge mistakes even though we adamently disagree and argue that because we don't regret our choice it therefore is not a mistake. Kind of a rationalization and a way of making sure our life is tidy and neat and without any self-incrimination.

Usually others see this for what it really is. Delusion or just arrogance.

[PITTM]

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so the guy that got drunk, tried to drive home, ran a stop sign, hit a car with a mom and 3 kids (killing them all) didn't make a mistake?
How about the guy that beat his wife?
The mom that verbally abuses her kids on a regular basis?

Come on, this is total crap that "there are no mistakes" ... there are absolutely mistakes.

ThisHo

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all of these people would argue that these actions somehow turned the person into what they are today, which is presumably good. however, i disagree with these people. these things are OBVIOUS mistakes.

rj

[2planka]

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nothing in life is ever a mistake...

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You are mistaken.

To answer the OP's question, my biggest mistake was returning to graduate school after getting news that my father was terminally ill. Instead, I returned to school after the winter break and he passed away two weeks into the semester.

[ElSapo]

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these things are OBVIOUS mistakes.


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Evan would probably disagree. In the mom's case, at least, she's doing it on purpose.

[Evan]

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these things are OBVIOUS mistakes.


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Evan would probably disagree. In the mom's case, at least, she's doing it on purpose.

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I don't understand this post. Why would I disagree? What does her doing it on purpose have to do with it? Weren't they all doing whatever they were doing on purpose? [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img]

[ElSapo]

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these things are OBVIOUS mistakes.


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Evan would probably disagree. In the mom's case, at least, she's doing it on purpose.

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I don't understand this post. Why would I disagree? What does her doing it on purpose have to do with it? Weren't they all doing whatever they were doing on purpose? [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img]

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Yeah, I take it back. I said I didn't want to get into a semantic argument - my apologies. I just get irritated when I think good points are being obscured by a focus on smaller issues.

Sorry.

That I got married
Paul

[PITTM]

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these things are OBVIOUS mistakes.


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Evan would probably disagree. In the mom's case, at least, she's doing it on purpose.

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actually, i think he would agree completely. maybe thats because we understand what "mistake" means?

rj