thoughts on marriage and money: am i totally off here?

[Voltron87]

This thread is a total [censored] trainwreck.



I don't think it's out of line to say that finding a person you love to have sex with is the most important thing in life. But if you mean meaningless sex with someone you don't really know, well, that gets old relatively quick and doesn't really rank up there in the long run.

[Matt Flynn]

a lot of women do not get it when it comes to men: they don't realize strongly enough that sex and food really ARE what we want in addition to all the other stuff. so you can get married and end up getting hardly any sex, because all bullshit aside after the first kid a lot of women just lose interest / are chronically too tired / etc. this has just killed a few friends of mine.

marriage hurts you financially unless your plan includes kids, in which kids the kids really hurt you financially but the wife is a net gain. divorce is the worst.

sorry if that offends any of the three women who surf these boards, but that's the way it is.

matt

p.s. my wife rocks. that is all.

[gorie]

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a lot of women do not get it when it comes to men: they don't realize strongly enough that sex and food really ARE what we want in addition to all the other stuff.

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i doubt it is that they "don't get it" - i'd say it has a lot more to do with not getting their needs met either, and don't want to live just to be a cook/maid/blowupdoll to make sure someone else keeps getting what they want.

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this whole thread sucked. if i could delete it i would.

but anyways im 19. never gone to college or plan to.

7 month relationship without cheating with 1 girl

you are probally thinking


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POTD

And a perfect example of why OOT really sucks sometimes.

KKF-
1. Don't post crap you know nothing about. (women and money)

2. Its OK to admit you wank.

Where the hell is that over 30 forum when we need it?

[StevieG]

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This joint checking account fails to explain how you had more money. Maybe you stopped eating out? Single people can cook too.

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You raised the issue of higher expenses, not extra income from marriage.

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After marriage you can expect:

Little to no sex.
Little to no spare time.
Higher expenses.

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I dispute that marriage necessarily results in higher expenses. In fact I saw an increase, because we were then on the same health plan, we felt comfortable buying a house, etc.

I also dispute that marriage necessarily results in any of those other things. Your assertions to "come back in three years" only go to show that marriage is not the sole factor for these things (age, starting a family, etc., all contribute).

As for your suggestion to try a fling with a secretary or coed, I have no doubt that would add pep to one's sex life. So would lots of other things, many of which can involve one's spouse. The former is a lot of permanent risk for ephemeral gain.

I have been content so far to counter your generalizations my own anecdotal experience and not speculate as to yours, but at this point I lose my patience. It may be that you have a misearable sex life with a woman you feel is a drain on your pocketbook. So be it. Do not assume the rest of us are in the same dreary state.

Good day, sir.

[Mr_J]

I think (your) money is pretty important after you get married. If she doesn't put out, she doesn't get any money. If she lasts 2 weeks, then I'm kicking her out.

[Los Feliz Slim]

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I could hardly see it getting more expensive if we were married.

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This is what we all thought.

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This thread is confusing, I have no idea who's arguing what. Or why. But anyway, money, without a shadow of a doubt, is more important once you get married/start a family. I specificially waited to be more financially secure before I got married for this reason. I knew that once I was married, I wanted a house, kids, etc etc etc. I wanted my wife to be able to not work. I enjoy taking care of my family.

[Matt Flynn]

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i doubt it is that they "don't get it" - i'd say it has a lot more to do with not getting their needs met either, and don't want to live just to be a cook/maid/blowupdoll to make sure someone else keeps getting what they want.

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the whole "getting needs met" thing is a load of crap. you got a roof? food? heat in the winter? freedom from violence? access to friends? if you don't have those, you can complain. otherwise, no one gets their needs met, male or female.

i think men on average are worse at it than women, if that softens the blow a bit.

[daryn]

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this is the most pathetic thing i have ever heard.

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Not nearly as pathetic as the guy that thinks getting laid is the most important thing in life.

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again:

jake please tell us what controlled you the most in your single days, since you insist it wasnt pussy.

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i can honestly say that pussy doesn't control my life. maybe i am much different than other guys though. i do have a girlfriend but it feels like we are married by the way some people around here are describing marriage.

"The only two things worth doin in life for people like us is f4ckin and playin cards kid, and its not close" (old guy at Casino).

Look to all you people saying pussy doesn't matter, consider that you can be [censored] poor, have no education, live in some random country for next to nothing, and have a wild sex life. You're basically living the life, that most people work the 9-5 grind for a one month taste of, all the time. IMO happiness is pretty directly related to feeling healthy and reproducing which is an animals basic biological instincts.

Don't you feel like life is worth living when you wake up at 6am, go for a swim, have sex, then sit around eating papadams?