thoughts on marriage and money: am i totally off here?

[BusterStacks]

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You will never have more disposable income in your life than when you are single with no kids.

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I spend easily twice as much being single than I ever did living with my gf.

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A girlfriend is not a wife.

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I could hardly see it getting more expensive if we were married. Anything she wanted I would buy, but it was cheaper because I didn't go out every night.

[BoogerFace]

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If I have less free time, disposable income, or sex in three years, it will be because we started a family

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I don't see your point. All of the above happens to married people without children over time as well. It's not because you had kids - although I agree children will add another degree of difficulty.

The 'more' income point is moot. It's not yours to spend however you like. You need to get permission from the Mrs. first and she has to agree that spending the money is a good idea.

Disclaimer: I am generalizing quite a bit. But for most people marriage in the long run is a trade off of emotional security at the expense of free time, money, and quantity of sex.

[Aloysius]

Out of curiosity - how old are you and have you ever been in a committed relationship? (Let's say >3 months with one chick.)

My guess would be 15 - 17 years old, and no.

Not that you haven't banged tons of chicks or anything - I obviously have no idea - but I'd just be very surprised to learn you're even in / graduated from college yet.

[codewarrior]

But a wife can (and should be) a girlfriend. Mine is my best friend.

Well. I'm going to go vomit now.

[Shajen]

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Mine is my best friend.

Well. I'm going to go vomit now.

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No need to vomit, this should be true for any marriage. I know it is for mine.

Ok, move over, I got lunch coming up.

[BusterStacks]

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But a wife can (and should be) a girlfriend. Mine is my best friend.

Well. I'm going to go vomit now.

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Ugh, I hate when people call their partner their best friend. If you're a guy, your best friend better be a guy, or you have some serious problems.

Do you also have a furry toilet seat cover? Did you go to Lilith Fair?

[BoogerFace]

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You will never have more disposable income in your life than when you are single with no kids.

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I spend easily twice as much being single than I ever did living with my gf.

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A girlfriend is not a wife.

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I'm with Jake on this one.

Wives can ask for remodeled kitchens - and they get them. Girlfriends get shown the door.

[jakethebake]

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I could hardly see it getting more expensive if we were married.

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This is what we all thought.

[Paluka]

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But a wife can (and should be) a girlfriend. Mine is my best friend.

Well. I'm going to go vomit now.

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Ugh, I hate when people call their partner their best friend. If you're a guy, your best friend better be a guy, or you have some serious problems.

Do you also have a furry toilet seat cover? Did you go to Lilith Fair?

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I have never in my entire life met a girl who expressed interest in a furry toilet seat cover.

[BusterStacks]

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Wives can ask for remodeled kitchens - and they get them. Girlfriends get shown the door.

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Meh, if I can find someone who I would actually marry and that can tolerate me on a longterm basis, [censored] it, remodel the whole house.