what's better?

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Plus she would go on and on about her ex back east. Finally I asked her how long they were together. Eight weeks. She surely has some issues to work through.

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did I mention she's dating my best guy friend now? He's a player, so I know he's not serious. But yeah, uggh.

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I think your sponsor's right. She's reaching out for affection in a way that is destructive, and she'll take you down with her (and ruin any chance of a real relationship once she does deal with her demons.)

Let her be. She won't find a long-term with her behavior, and you're not risking losing her long-term by letting her be nutso with others (though, I know it hurts to think about). She really does need to work on finding solace and not replace her previous addiction(s) with affection-- yall can't be long-term without her finding peace without destructive behaviors.

GL, I think you know you need to stay away for now, and take the advice of your sponsor not only as that but as a friend who is removed from the situation.