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[pleyya]

I wouldnt say that somebody who plays poker profesionally "gambles all day". If you play profesionally it becomes like any job. Just because her husband makes money she should not be forced to not have a career of her own. If she was a teacher or waitress or whatever and sent her kid to daycare during the days, how would this be different ? It woudlnt.

[HRFats]

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I wouldnt say that somebody who plays poker profesionally "gambles all day". If you play profesionally it becomes like any job. Just because her husband makes money she should not be forced to not have a career of her own. If she was a teacher or waitress or whatever and sent her kid to daycare during the days, how would this be different ? It woudlnt.

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She made a whopping $20K in a year (actually more than a year). After taxes closer to $15K. Daycare is $100 - $150 per week so call it $5,000 per year. So she clears $10K - peanuts, really.

BUT the reason she quit her programming jod was to stay home with the kid. And the reason she give for daycare is so he can spend time with other kids - and so she can play poker. Sounds like she's selfish to me...She can't wait onother year and a half and play when the kid is in school?

When you have little kids, they should be your first priority, your second priority and your third priority.

You also must feel guilty that you hawk your kids off to a stranger with a questionable backround every day. Ask someone that used to work in a daycare center what the quality of care is really like and you will quit your job tomorrow. My wife worked in a daycare center for a week while in college and quit because of how the children were treated.

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So she clears $10K - peanuts, really.

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Oh come on. That "peanuts" is about the annual income of a full-time, year-round worker on minimum wage. I'd love to be in a place where $10k is peanuts. You may not think it's worth the trade-off, but let's not pretend that the income she's forgoeing by quitting poker isn't very significant to many families.

[FishNChips]

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So she clears $10K - peanuts, really.

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Oh come on. That "peanuts" is about the annual income of a full-time, year-round worker on minimum wage. I'd love to be in a place where $10k is peanuts. You may not think it's worth the trade-off, but let's not pretend that the income she's forgoeing by quitting poker isn't very significant to many families.

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this is a fair point. If they live in a small apt in a low cost of living area this might cover 80% of the rent every month and that is significant.

My issue is with the schedule. As another poster stated, your kids have to be priority 1/2/3...n. You're a parent now, thats how it is. She can play at night after her husband gets home or after her kid goes to bed. I've also not seen her say that she "needs" the $$$. She has stated that there isn't much to spare if they rely on her husbands salary.

Priorities!
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[fallout1234]

Ok I made 10K after tax after deducting daycare cost. But my husband's 20K won't be there if my kid is at home all day.

And last year I started by playing 25c/50c with 500 dollar bankroll . The first 1k took me 4 months to earn. So my 20K per year is not an flat average.
We hope to use poker money to help pay for a house later, considering how costly house are, we can't afford it by my husband's teacher salary.

[Neurotoxin]

if you have a $40,000 bankroll why are you only making $20k a year.

[fallout1234]

Each of us has 20K bankroll.

[HRFats]

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if you have a $40,000 bankroll why are you only making $20k a year.

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I think it's because her husband also plays and he made $20K last year as well.

So it sounds like you need the money so you can buy a house. Why don't you limit your play to times when your child is in bed either at night or morning or both. Let your husband keep his schedule so he still makes his $20k. You will save $5k in daycare (how much ARE you paying?) and can probably make $6k playing mornings, nights and weekends ($500 a month should not be a problem).

So you save $5k, make $6k that becomes $4500 after taxes for a total of almost $10k. You're in the EXACT same position , your son is no longer in daycare and you are only playing half the hours you were playing before - and you don't need to take a job...

[fallout1234]

None of us could play poker when my kid is around. He distrcts too much. He demands control of every computer.
He only sleeps 9 hours a day. The most we can do is 2 hours playing time.

[FishNChips]

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Ok I made 10K after tax after deducting daycare cost. But my husband's 20K won't be there if my kid is at home all day.

And last year I started by playing 25c/50c with 500 dollar bankroll . The first 1k took me 4 months to earn. So my 20K per year is not an flat average.
We hope to use poker money to help pay for a house later, considering how costly house are, we can't afford it by my husband's teacher salary.

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clearly we're giving you feedback on about 1/100th of the truly available information so how about I do this:

1 - is it a "waste" to spend your day playing poker : ABSOLUTELY NOT! Plenty of folks on this site do it for a living and I do not have any issue with that. Its not a waste if you understand the risks and its not an addiction / life destroying activity.

HOWEVER

2 - your situation is a bit different because you have a kid involved. In My Opinion, your child needs to be your #1 priority and that means that if you CAN you should have the little one at home with you during the day. Your choices should reflect what is in the best interest of your child, not what is easiest/most convenient/nicest/funnest/coolest for you. You're a parent now, the days of "what I want" are over and "what is best for my child" should be the driving force behind your decisions. If dropping your child off at day care and spending 5 - 8hrs/day playing poker is truly what is best for your child then go for it.

3 - don't justify dropping your child off at day care with "the social interaction is good for him." If I need to dig up the cites for the studies I'll do it, but its better for the kids to be at home with mom and/or dad during their early years. They'll get plenty of interaction when they reach school age.

Again . what you do is up to you, but you asked, its been answered, and you might not like it.

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