I pushed the raise button till my fingers were numb

Dude - that's poker. The pf action indicates no real strength anywhere. The sb flopped an OEStr8F draw. I autobet this every time from early position to build a monster pot! As it stands, he has 9+8-2 outs to what has to be the nuts! your correct raise and all the calls made the pot odds a no brainer for him to CALL, which he did instead of raising again.

He turned the nuts, so he bet again, FULLY expecting you to raise. You did and he correctly re-raises. Your cap is not necessarily a bad play, but I probably would have slowed down. On the river, he has to know he has won, so betting all he can is correct.

BTW I simply LUV suited connectors in the SB. A cheap call and they are very easy to release when you miss.

Seriously, maybe you should consider a little time away from the tables to clear your head. IMHO, you are way off base here with your analysis & comments. Change your perspective & come back and re-read this post.