Should I force my Mom's Hand????

[Talk2BigSteve]

As many of you know, I live in Meridian, MS with my mother. I moved back in when my father passed away. She is in debt and I have been paying tons of her bills (House, car, etc). She has issues with me bringing anyone home, so my private life and sex life is almost nonexistant. She does not make enough in a month to pay for her house, car, electric, etc. She has never dealt with her greif from the passing of my father. She does not have the money to pay for and maintain this house, but she refuses to sell it because "My Father bought it as their retirement home." No 64 year old widow needs a 2000+ sq ft 4 bed 2 bath brick home on an acre of land. She constantly says things like "If your father was alive we would have almost $5K a month in income" when she is "borrowing"(With no hope of ever paying it back) money from me.

If I move out into an apartment, She would basically be forced to put the house up for sale. I am paying a house payment of over $800 a month for my mother. I thought she would deal with her greif and move on but it is now 4 1/2 years later and I am still here paying the bills, so she can keep her memories here.

Should I force her hand and just say enough is enough? Or am I just being a cold hearted SOB. Anyone else and I would have left long ago but this is my mother.

Living in Mississippi is cheap, I can get a nice 1/1 apartment for less that $400 here.

What should I do???

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