Do I have issues?

[beachbum]

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I think the better question is:
Where would I be if I realized my goals but ran away from all those close to me to get there?

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This brings up kind of an interesting point. I know goal setting is a necessary part of life, and is key in acclerating personal growth. Goals work by creating a disconnect between the present state and the future desired state when that goal is accomplished. This disconnect creates a healthy tension which drives your actions and efforts toward making these two pictures match up (i.e. accomplishing the goal).

Anyway, let's say I set goals that are healthy for my life and situation. However, when I'm striving for my goals and don't achieve them, I get frustrated. So the whole process of accomplishing the goal is one of frustration. I see where I want to be, and if I'm not there, even though I'm doing everything I need to be doing to get there, it bothers me.

For example, I have a "B" rating in beach volleyball. The next higher rating is an "A", so naturally that's my next goal. However, if I don't see myself improving or get my butt kicked everytime I enter an "A" tournament, I get frustrated and pissy. So until I accomplish this goal, I'm very restless (and not really in a healthy way that stimulates personal growth).

Any thoughts on how to handle this and treat goals as a healthy part of my life?