Having to give it all up for good (long message), advice appreciated

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You sound like you do actually have a gambling problem based on that post, which your wife was terrified of. Maybe you do, maybe you don't. We're all armchair psychologists here (except for the occasional actual doc, I suppose) - take .3 of those BB's, go see a shrink and be honest about everything.

Your ex was an evil bitch who threw a vase and cheated on you, used A HOBBY YOU WERE GOOD AT AND GAVE UP FOR HER as an excuse and you are far better off without her.

Telling your next girlfriend everything up front will get you a rejection or two but you'll be far better off for it.

PS: My GF of 2+ years doesn't mind at all/encourages me despite never having heard of the game prior to dating me, so yes, it's possible.