Question for Thirtysomethings or older...

[Talk2BigSteve]

Tuesday I will turn 31. I have been very depressed lately. I am nowhere close to where at 21 I thought I would be in 10 years. My life has been in a rut for 5+ years.

Here are some reasons why (in no particular order)...

My significant other (Kyle) gets killed by an underage drunk driver.
I was laid off from my dream job at IBM in Dallas, and in the past 7 years in of being in Mississippi have never had a year where I even made 1/2 of what I made in Dallas.
A house fire destroys everything I hold dear including every physical memory and momento of my life with Kyle as well as all my childhood things.
I severely injured my right leg at a job here which requires almost 3 years of my life for surguries/recovery to get to a point that I can walk as best I can from.
My father dies of a heart attack at the age of 60 (A great man but one who lived far beyond his means and paycheck to paycheck).
I had to move in with my mother to take care of bills so she was not left destitute.
A year ago I found out that I am diabetic.
A couple months ago I come very close to being killed in a head on collision where I break my good leg.


Do you ever wonder where the hell did I go wrong in life to get to this point? I sure as hell do.

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[gorie]

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I am nowhere close to where at 21 I thought I would be in 10 years.

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i am sure a lot of people feel this way...

[this guy]

You should adopt a child.

[Mayhap]

In most life histories, it is the compilation of 'go wrongs' that lead to 'go rights' and success down the road. Keep the faith and cultivate appreciation of the many nice things that unfold around you each day.

$0.02 from a not quite geriatric mofo.

[Roybert]

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In most life histories, it is the compilation of 'go wrongs' that lead to 'go rights' and success down the road. Keep the faith and cultivate appreciation of the many nice things that unfold around you each day.

$0.02 from a not quite geriatric mofo.

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I'll be 30 in a week. Could not have said it better than this. Keep your chin up and Good luck, dude.

[Talk2BigSteve]

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In most life histories, it is the compilation of 'go wrongs' that lead to 'go rights' and success down the road. Keep the faith and cultivate appreciation of the many nice things that unfold around you each day.

$0.02 from a not quite geriatric mofo.

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I totally agree with this. I have a lot of great things in my life. I was just listing some of the bad.

I hate to say it because I will get Phil Hellmuth jokes, but I do relaxation techniques and Buddhist meditation everyday.

When I get finished with the walker and all, I am going to start back on my diet & exercise plan, it worked for the first 70+ pounds, now I have about 85 lbs more to go.

I have a lot of good going for me, it is just not as good as I would have thought I would have at this point.

Big Steve [img]/images/graemlins/cool.gif[/img]

[JaBlue]

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I do relaxation techniques and Buddhist meditation everyday.


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meditation and relaxation are great for you.

Have you tried self hypnosis?

[Blarg]

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When I get finished with the walker and all, I am going to start back on my diet & exercise plan, it worked for the first 70+ pounds, now I have about 85 lbs more to go.

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Why wait? Do dumbbell curls and wrist curls and shoulder presses from your chair. Get a couple handgrippers and become a strength monster even while your legs are recovering.

Sort of in line with the, Why Wait Till Tomorrow to Live? theme.

[raisins]

Hey Steve,

I'm in your age range and can relate to the way you're feeling, but you have caught some pretty harsh breaks. I hope things turn around and you start noticing some improvements.

Meditation and relaxation techniques have made a difference in my life as well. I know that when I focus on some idea about how things should be different it tends to depress me.

best wishes,

raisins

[Matty]

What a very un-gay post. :-/