Is this forbidden territory?

#1 09-25-2005, 04:38 PM

I'm interested in this girl who I've known for like 2 years. I met her through a very good friend of mine who was dating her for about the first year and a half. He graduated last year and now they are separated. Is he going to kill me if I pick up his ex? What is the verdict on best friend's ex's?

InchoateHand · #2 09-25-2005, 04:38 PM

Ask him about it.

jakethebake · #3 09-25-2005, 04:39 PM

Why don't you ask him?

theben · #4 09-25-2005, 04:49 PM

you must obey the rules. every dude knows and follows THE RULES and if you break them, you are scum and bad things happen

InchoateHand · #5 09-25-2005, 04:51 PM

I'm glad you watched some crappy teen made-for-tv movie that explained "The Rules."

Welcome to adulthood, they don't exist.

Talk to your friend.

MyTurn2Raise · #6 09-25-2005, 04:52 PM

Who broke up with whom? How does your buddy feel about her now?

PoBoy321 · #7 09-25-2005, 04:53 PM

You should just start going out with her and not tell your friend, but then, the first time you have sex with her, call your friend in the middle of it and start screaming "I'M [censored] YOUR BITCH! I'M [censored] YOUR BITCH!" That's what I'd do.

Felix_Nietsche · #8 09-25-2005, 04:54 PM

Who broke up with whom? How does your buddy feel about her now?
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Bingo.....if he dumped her. This is good for you.
If she dumped him, he will harbor some resentment even if he says he doesn't care.

#9 09-25-2005, 07:08 PM

They mutually ended the relationship on agreeable terms. He moved half way across country. So they are over but they are still friends and there is no ill-will either way.

Suggestions for how to approach my friend? Basically work backward and try to predict your response if you were him and heard from your friend "So I'm thinking about trying to bang your ex... That's cool right?" In a way I'd rather just not try with her if in order to get things going I have to risk a conversation with him that could [censored] things up.

I can think of a few times when I had a recent ex and if any of my friends had hit on her I would have killed them. That feeling goes away in time though.

Felix_Nietsche · #10 09-25-2005, 07:15 PM

Tough call............ex-sex is something most guys like to have when they come back in town for a visit. If you move on his ex, then your cutting off his chance for ex-sex. But the saying "all is far in love in war" trumps everything. If the chick wants you....go for it.