Guy dating a Japanese girl...

I thought you OOTers might find this interesting.

Quote from a thread in the Psychology forums:

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I'm a caucasion American in college and my new girlfriend is Japanese -- she's here for college and has been here about 5 years. I made her my girlfriend but neither of us are really sure what that means. Anyway I like her and I'm pretty sure she likes me, but she's very cautious when it comes to relationships. I think this has to do with her being a traditional Japanese girl. So, to make a long story short, she always wants to spend time with me but I can't get physical with her at all. I'm embarrassed to say that after 3 weeks of dating the most I've done was kiss her on the cheek. Am I wrong for wanting too much too soon?

The thing is, she is a quality girl and I like that - I could dump her and get a girl who would be easier, but she wouldn't be of the same pedigree. But the problem is I can't let this go on forever and I don't want a platonic relationship.

Any general advice or information on Japanese customs would be appreciated. I'll post more details upon request.

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Link to the thread.

BTW, I'm new here, so if linking to someone else's post in another forum is inappropriate, then I'm sorry and I won't do it again [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img].

[miajag81]

Tell him to do a google search for "tubgirl" for some clues as to what Japanese girls are into.

[daryn]

dude, 3 weeks is nothing. why do people think you gotta be banging right away or else you're done for?

i need a japanese gf

[miajag81]

as for a serious response....

darynisright

[TheMainEvent]

This is certainly the first I've heard of this 'Japanese girls being prudes' business. Anyone have more insight here?

[soko]

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dude, 3 weeks is nothing. why do people think you gotta be banging right away or else you're done for?

i need a japanese gf

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If a chick won't let you get past a cheek kiss after 3 weeks there is something WRONG. that is not waiting, that is repressing, unnatural.

EDIT: It would be different if the feeling was mutual but the physical aspect of a relationship is just as important as the physical, if one partner is not being fulfilled in all the ways they feel they deserve it is not healthy.

[miajag81]

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dude, 3 weeks is nothing. why do people think you gotta be banging right away or else you're done for?

i need a japanese gf

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If a chick won't let you get past a cheek kiss after 3 weeks there is something WRONG. that is not waiting, that is repressing, unnatural.

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It could just as easily be him being afraid to make any other sort of move for fear of offending her or whatever. I think we need more information before we can make that judgment.

[daryn]

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dude, 3 weeks is nothing. why do people think you gotta be banging right away or else you're done for?

i need a japanese gf

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If a chick won't let you get past a cheek kiss after 3 weeks there is something WRONG. that is not waiting, that is repressing, unnatural.

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It could just as easily be him being afraid to make any other sort of move for fear of offending her or whatever. I think we need more information before we can make that judgment.

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exactly

[Colonel Kataffy]

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dude, 3 weeks is nothing. why do people think you gotta be banging right away or else you're done for?

i need a japanese gf

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If a chick won't let you get past a cheek kiss after 3 weeks there is something WRONG. that is not waiting, that is repressing, unnatural.

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It could just as easily be him being afraid to make any other sort of move for fear of offending her or whatever. I think we need more information before we can make that judgment.

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This is very true. More info please. Chances are he isn't aggressive/willing-to-walk enough for her to want to want to be kissed. Hopefully he isn't asking for permission.

[johnnybeef]

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dude, 3 weeks is nothing. why do people think you gotta be banging right away or else you're done for?

i need a japanese gf

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because we are horny.