[Maddenboy]

Thanks.

While i appreciate Affleckkgb's pinpoint insight and stunning analysis, I think the biggest help is to explain to her "of course you'll get it back."

I like it for a couple reasons. First, she WILL. I havent stressed that to her, but i know it and she knows it.

Second, it gives her confidence, and lets her know i still have confidence in her. Not just in her play, but in her desire to improve her game always.

Third, and perhaps best of all, it empowers her to CONTROL when and where she gets it back. I find the best way to get someone to do something is to lead her 90% of the way and let her take that last step. Feeling like you are the one who thought of it yourself makes you more likely to go with it.

Thanks. Anything else, i'm all ears, in case this doesnt work.