[soko]

In all seriousness take a step back and look at what you're doing.

You're in a relationship.

Instead of telling her what you want, you're telling internet strangers.

You're never going to get what you want from us, you have to tell her, this is what I want, if I can't get it from you, i'm gonna get it from her.

As much as the "nice guys" hate to admit it, you don't get what you want from a girl by asking, you get it by telling.