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Old 12-22-2005, 08:20 AM
Blarg Blarg is offline
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Default Re: How many friends of the opposite sex?

I've had huge sections of my life where almost all my friends were women. Just by numbers alone, that meant that 90% of them or better I wouldn't want to sleep with. Since they were friends, I didn't choose them based on looks, and looks count in who I'd want to nail. Plus I believe in the old rule of you don't poop where you eat, and trying to nail your friends is usually not that good of an idea, because even if you don't get attached, they will, no matter what they say or how they try to play it off different. This is especially true if they start out as friends, because there's more between you. There are rare exceptions, but they're not usually worth risking a friendship over. Besides, female friends sometimes try to get you together with other girls anyway and give you glowing reviews and invaluable chick-friend-network approval, so there's no reason to Tony Montana it up and snort your own coke.

These "women can't be friends" lines that are going on lately have truth in them for many people, but that's in large part because they can't handle themselves and are out of their depth extending themselves in any way. For them, admitting the truth about their interactions and implementing dumbed down simplistic rules and outlooks 4 teh winzor. Whatever works.

But women can be both the best friends and the worst enemies; you're bound to see the bad part, so you might as well not cheat yourself and see the good, too. The only problem is you keeping your dick in your pants and remember what a friend really is, which is pretty over the top impossible for a lot of guys.

Unfortunately, this "new wisdom" with its overtones of some darwinistic natural order of things is surprisingly similar to the most socially retarded anti-sex muslim and old-timey Christian attitudes toward sex and winds up being effectively the same, encouraging people segregating themselves off and proclaiming it a victory and part of the natural God-given order of things instead of an admission of failure and fear, and a closing off of possibilities.

You can still screw women and have them as friends too. You just have to step up your game a little.
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