[mockingbird]

I'm a female player. But I am nowhere near to being a professional and have only been playing about 6 months or so.

If she has been playing as a pro for 4 years I dont think you are going to change her attitudes. As some others have mentioneed suggesting she read or reread some poker literature might help.

It seems like you are trying to control her - not necessarily in a bad way, you are trying to help her improve. But you are still trying to control what she thinks, her attitudes, how she expresses them etc.

I realize, or agree, that she would be better off if she took your suggestions. But, all you can do is present them to her. And then I think it best to let her be who she is, faults and all. We all have faults after all.

If it does not jeapardize her or your financial security, let it go and focus on your own game and enjoying the best parts of her personality and her company. I assume you are not dating her only because of her poker skills.

You are close to sounding co-dependent on this one.