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Don't make the decision in one night, follow your heart as long as you can, then follow your head. Can't say what you should do because it's to personal but if you love your wife still I would try as long as she did. good luck man I wish you best.

If you do go the divorce route nothing says you two have to hate each other. You can still be caring and you can still maintain some aspects of being a family. Just keep your act, be a man, be honest and be caring.

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All good advice, but please, don't be a sucker. When things are as messy as you say it helps to be prepared. See a lawyer. Consider it like auto insurance. You don't plan on having an accident, but accidents aren't generally within your control.