[Los Feliz Slim]

HEK,

Is your wife going to have an amnio? I know there's some risk involved, but they get some of the baby's tissue that way and can really get lots of information. My wife had to stay on a medication while pregnant that was on the "grey" list - you could only keep taking it if it was absolutely necessary, and increases the risk of birth defects (particularly neural tube disorders, which are not good at all) from 2-3% to 4-6%. Thus, she had an amnio, which was easy to do and really took a load off our minds.

I take it the person doing the ultrasound was not her OB? I find it odd that someone without a lot of authority would drop a "maybe" like that on you.

Like everyone else has said, it's important you listen to your wife and let her know that you'll do everything together, whatever happens.

Good luck man.