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I don't think putting your foot down is "childish anger." If she wanted to tell him that she wants to spend more time with him, she did a terrible job of doing so.

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You are right. She did a terrible job. So the question is whether we

a) punish her for doing so by focusing on this issue and taking a hard line

or

b) understand that she is human and, as such, sometimes misunderstands her emotions and makes mistakes - and then take this knowledge and try and address the real issues.

So many relationships end because both partners get so focussed on being "right" that they fail to focus on getting things to work.