I don't know if I can say I have had similar experiences - but I can recommend something that might help.

Pick up a copy of "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl. I think that is really a good place to start when you are contemplating putting your life back together. Its hard reading - its mostly about his time in a Concentration Camp - but the lessons are profound.

From a self-help perspective, Stephen Covey's "7 Habits of Highly Effective People" is a great book that gets you thinking about why you look at things the way you do and how you can change your whole life paradigm.

Both excellent reads - and the lessons I learned from both have really helped me in life.