[Laddy]

Thanks for all your contributions. There's some great advice, from both sides of the argument, and I think in the end it's just about a personal matter of opinion, and no answer is necessarily right or wrong. It's more about personal circumstances and the relationship between the two people. This isn't to say it isn't wrong....cheating is absolutely unforgivable in every single circumstance. However, no one's perfect, and I made a stupid and costly mistake.

As it stands i'm fairly comfortable with myself not telling her, as long as it NEVER happens again. If it does of course, i'll have to be honest....as you guys have got it right, it's not fair on her at all.

Anyway I think it's better to close the topic here as everyone's probably getting bored of seeing this right at the top of the Psychology forum (wrong forum anyway isn't it...should of been in other topics - apologies.

All the best to all of you in your future relationships, don't use me as an example, as i'm an [censored].

Thanks again,

Laddy.