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What's the best plan of action with handling these when you didn't grab a piece of the flop in both a) HU pot and b) multiway pots. When I raise with a pair PF and I get donked I usually raise on a safe board(ex. TT on J84 flop). But hands like these seem to be costing me a lot and I tend to call the flop and fold the turn UI. Thoughts? All too standard? I've had a lot of these come up lately and I really feel like I can/should be able to play them better.

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Preflop: Hero is CO with 8[img]/images/graemlins/diamond.gif[/img], A[img]/images/graemlins/diamond.gif[/img].
<font color="#666666">4 folds</font>, <font color="#CC3333">Hero raises</font>, <font color="#666666">1 fold</font>, SB calls, BB calls.

Flop: (6 SB) 5[img]/images/graemlins/diamond.gif[/img], Q[img]/images/graemlins/club.gif[/img], T[img]/images/graemlins/heart.gif[/img] <font color="#0000FF">(3 players)</font>
SB checks, <font color="#CC3333">BB bets</font>, Hero calls, SB folds.

Turn: (4 BB) J[img]/images/graemlins/spade.gif[/img] <font color="#0000FF">(2 players)</font>
<font color="#CC3333">BB bets</font>, Hero folds.

Final Pot: 5 BB

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In your hand example you called the flop with no pair and no draw, this is not a winning poker strategy. So the first step to handling these donk bets is to fold when you have nothing. Also, i dont understand how you can think J84 is a safe board for TT. This is actually a very unsafe board for TT, since if anyone has a J you are crippled. In fact if you are in a multiway pot and someone bets into you on this board and all you have is TT and there are 3 or 4 players to act behind you, you should be foldling, not raising.