Re: A Leak In My Game
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why can't you step to her in the gym?
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One, where she was sitting would require me to climb over people, or yell, just to say "Hi, I'm James." There's nothing smooth about that. Two, she was paying attention to what was going on, and I didn't want to interfere with that.
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i think it finally sunk in for me that you're not talking about a gym in the sense of a bunch of people working out. my bad.
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if she weren't on the phoen you just walk up to her. nothing wrong with that.
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Maybe I'm just lame in these situations, but I hate doing that. Like I said, starting up a casual conversation about something random is no big deal. I.E. you're both waiting in a line, I comment about how long the line is taking, introduce myself, etc... But just flat out walking up and introducing myself with no ice-breaker is something I apparently suck at.
In fact, I don't know many guys who would be comfortable with that. There is such a thing as too straight-forward, and I think girls can be a little put off by it as well. Ice-breakers are key. When she sees me obviously coming at her, I pretty much have to get straight to the point, which to me is not the optimal approach.
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i think this is just personal preference. imo there is nothing wrong with just stepping to a girl you're interested in. that does not of course mean it's the right way, or the best way, or appropriate in all situations. but think of it this way: you only live once, and there's no guarantee you'll ever see the person again to get another chance (or be embarassed if you did the direct approach and got shot down [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img] ).
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