[diebitter]

Whether you can trust your dad again - I don't know, that's really up to you. But he sounds like a decent man who has pretty much done a man's job raising his family and mostly been right all along the way - you know this, I'm not telling you anything you didn't say in your OP.

I didn't have a father at all (well I saw him once or twice, last time at 15 when I told him to get lost and leave me and my mother alone (cos I knew his very occasional appearances upset her) - and fair credit, he did), and never felt a thing about it till I now have kids of my own, and I realised what I missed - completely and utterly missed. I wish I'd had a father even a 1/3rd the man your dad is. Hell, I don't even know if mine is dead or alive, and don't particularly care - because I've no reason to - not like you.

Your dad's a human being - he makes mistakes.

Okay, I've rambled too.

I hope this helps in some small way - I do sympathise and realise this is a big problem for you, and wish you luck.