Re: jobs are important ?
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right now they live with someone that supports them but the person supporting them doesn't like this, and doesn't treat them very well because of it.
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again, this is key. the relationship shoudl be the most important thing. if the slacker is not willing to compromise for the good of the relationship, then both parties should probably go their separate ways.
to me this doesn't boil down to money, it boils down to respect and caring for the person bearing the burden of supporting both.
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i agree...
it can be tough when you're depressed though. i think a lot of it is "if they love me it shouldn't be a big deal" or something, which is bad. but considering "money doesn't equal happiness" it some how makes sense in their confused head.
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i have a very good friend who just recently lost a serious relationship because of this kind of issue. he regrets it every day. i really think that it's tough love time in this situation...lay it all out on the line for the slacker (again, for lack of a better word).
fwiw, this thread would be easier to understand if you'd just given the two people random names, like "mat" and "david." [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]
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