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this is exactly what i mean. you have a fear of failure. you dont have a fear of success. maybe it is me that really doesnt understand the definitions of these terms, but i believe that many people confuse the two which is what you have done here in my opinion.

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I disagree, somewhat.

Although in both cases, what is ultimately feared is failure, the fear manifests itself in different ways.

A person with a fear of failure may push themselves very hard to succeed as a way of dealing with that fear - they may try to control their situation, use manipulation to secure their position, etc...

A person with a fear of success will avoid situations that put them in a position to fail - they will avoid possible success because of the fear of failure.

Two sides of the same coin.