[BritNewbie]

I wish there was one single, simple piece of advice that I could give you, which would sort all of this out, but we both know that life's a bit more complicated than that.

I have no particular experience or expertise with this sort of thing, other than the fact that a few years ago my wife and I went through what might be described as a 'difficult patch' (although our difficulties were nothing compared to what you're coping with.) I almost allowed it to destroy our marriage. For a while we were separated, but eventually got back together, worked on stuff, and these days are happier than we've ever been.

I certainly think you could do with some professional help. If you can afford it, legal advice as well as clinical advice is probably a good idea.

In a situation fraught with uncertainty, one thing's for definite: your son is lucky to have a father so committed to that boy's welfare. There are way too many guys for whom that would be a long way down the list of priorities.

I wish you Peace and Happiness.