[Al Schoonmaker]

I urge you to see a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist who does family practice. The typical marriage counselor does not have the training to deal with a person with severe bipolar disorder. The typical therapist does not have the training to deal with both husband and wife. You need someone with unusual training and experience.

A family lawyer is probably not the right person to see. Lawyers are professional adversaries. Their job is to fight for your interests. Of course, some lawyers are skilled compromisers, but far too many are just out to win.

And you're in a no win situation. Nobody is going to win, and the best you can hope for is to work out an amicable way to live together or to separate. If you can find a family lawyer with mediation skills, he or she MIGHT be helpful, but I think my first suggestion is more appropriate.

Good luck,

Al