[Maddenboy]

Thanks for your suggestions. And thanks Vex, for your perspective.

We have been playing about the same number of years, in the same casinos. That's where we met. But i have been employed, so her focus has been a little different. Lifetime, i think we have about the same number of hands, and the same experience at the same variety of limits.

Its hard for me when an otherwise reasonable person REFUSES to consider, or even listen to, anyone tell her to do something besides get her money back immediately.

I thought i made some progress when i said something like "imagine you just walk into the casino on a normal day and think 'I have to make a thousand bucks today.'" Do you think you will play good poker? Of course not. maybe decent, but not your best.

So then, if you are in the game and stuck a grand, walk to the bathroom and come back and think "I have to get my thousand back," it should be the same situation. you will NOT play your best poker, so your chances of getting it back will not be that good.

Otherwise, you could just walk into any casino, say "i'm going to get a thousand" and do it every day of your life. You know you cant. This is no different.

All i get is "yeah, i understand, but i lost X dollars. I need to get it back. Those fish are holding my money for a while, but i need it back. Why dont you understand? I cant believe you dont care about money."

I'm still stuck here.