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It doesn't really change my perspective.

She has a psycho-husband/ex-husband (whatever).

This guy could likely continue to be a psycho AFTER they get the divorce.


Up until this weekend it was really nothing more than:
- him calling her and not leaving messages
- once every 2 or 3 months calling her and telling her he still loves her and they should work it out
- one drunken episode where he showed up at her doorstep and she thought that would be the only time.

It was mostly a non-issue.

Then this weekend everything changed.

Also - I pointed out that he really IS potentially dangerous.

I showed her that after the first time he banged on her door she said she didn't think he would do it again because they had some finality. but he did it again.
After he came over to her place I said, "Do you think he'll confront me?" (since he now had pics of me) and she didn't think so. Obviously she was wrong there too.

In the past weekend there were a couple of lines that she said he wouldn't cross...that he crossed.

She sees that her judgement on what he's capable of has not been correct.
he could cross other lines that she would have previously thought uncrossable...such as breaking a car-window or violence or whatever.