[broomcorn]

For starters, see if you can find the rules posted for any public cardroom on the internet. print them out and highlight the "check and raise permitted" line.
show the guys in your game next time. i mean literally put the pieces of paper on the table and show them. then say, "look---i'm not trying to make rules to screw anyone over or gain any advantage. i am trying to host a fair, structured game. i'm not going to research and document every rule that i try to enforce in this game. I've done that once (see the papers in front of you), and that is enough. if you don't like the house rules here, PLEASE do not play".

wow. anti-check raise. i could barely pay attention to the rest of your post.

as stated by others, its your house and your game.