[Mayhap]

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I am scared to death of losing.

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This bell tolls for many of us of course.
To deal with fear effectively, we have to move to the penultimate fear and that helps us re-frame things. The penultimate fear is death of course. It is a good place to go, the reality that our lives will terminate. Going there, we can look at things with a lifetime, life-span context. We can have a detachment as if we were reading the story of our lives.

Here is an example passage from such a story:
Joe played poker. He saw that poker was like an ocean of money where the tides would flow in and then they would flow out or they would simply be neap. Even though these tides were the most natural and inevitable things, Joe feared the ebbing tide. It distressed him. One day he realized that all he had to do is simply take note of the tide flowing out and use it as a reminder to retreat from the ocean front and go home and cook a lobster and have great meals with family and friends. He learned to welcome the ebb tide. He found that the ebb tide was an unmistakable omen that the tide would once again be flowing in.

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