Getting Pissed Off At Players Hitting On You
 

I never used to get pissed off when I got unlikely bad beats. But now, as of late, the amount that its happening has started to add up. When they river their 2 outers, or on the turn when their pp turns a set to beat my 3-of-a-kind, its just really upsetting. I take no consolation in that "winning in the long run" idea, since I am angry now, not later. Any advice?

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I thought this was dating related. [img]/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img]

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so do you wanna talk this over dinner or what?

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Not today I dont. I'm down 1800 in 2 weeks.

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Move down, so that the money involved is not tied to your emotions. Think only in terms of BB.

Meditate on the biggest bad beat you ever put on someone. Reflect on the Karma in the universe.

Try some different form of poker for a change of pace. NL, Lim, 7cs, O8, etc.

Take a break. Watch a movie. Rounders is good, there is a special edition version out with Chan, Hellmouth, Fergeson, and Moneymaker giving commentary over the soundtrack. I also just watched a new video called Poker Bustouts. Very good stuff.

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I do think in terms of bb, I was just referencing the money as a reference to the dinner.

I think I will have to take a break this coming week anyways, busy with school and all. Ill see if I cool down.

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You play poker?

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Been there, done that. Got awfully tired of it. Then one day, I don't remember when/how/why, I started thinking of how this "stinkin' thinkin'" was screwing up my play. It wasn't an epiphany, it took a few days of mulling.

I thought about all the times, in business especially, I'd come up against this, that and the other and gotten my butt kicked. Sale not made, proposal not accepted, etc. And those things I always took as "a part of doin' bidnezz."

I started thinking, when in a traffic jam, about to miss a plane, etc., "OK, this isn't the first time, and it's sure as hell not going to be the last."

I know this is probably sounding sophmoric (and a few other descriptions), but it worked, for me. I take this attitude with me to the table. I know some jerk's going to draw out on me, I know I'm going to be on the dirty end of a bad beat. It's part of the game. Period. It's in every book you've ever read, or will read.

I smile, tell the guy, with all the sincerity and humility I can muster, "Nice hand." And then I start concentrating on the next hand. That other one's finished.

If you let the crap get to you, you're handing the keys to the car over to the crap. It's your car, dammit. YOU do the driving. YOU decide where to turn or not.

Good luck to you. Hang in there.

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since I am angry now, not later. Any advice?

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Looking for consolation in the “here and now” rather than “the LONG run”?

For what it’s worth, I'll give you an example of a memorable realization that led me to a higher degree of emotional control in poker.

I remember a long time ago I posted (not here) about wanting to wave my cracked pocket aces in the air for the world to see while proclaiming: "I am the best, can't you see that, you douche bag lagtard MORON!" The funniest part was I really meant it!

I think it may have been Gary Carson that replied: “You seem to be suffering from a deep serious psychological problem of some kind.” It took me years to admit it [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img] , but he was right. Eight years later, I still struggle with humility in various contexts and I’m guessing it never goes away completely. After all, we are only human.

These days… If I ever get the urge to show my aces or some such nonsense (without motive of course)… I just think: Take something from this moment (in the here and now) and use it as a weapon. The only thing I usually come up with is:

Taking solace in concealing information and emotions from my opponents…

If I’m as good as I think I am, what I know and my opponent doesn’t know is beneficial to me, and detrimental to them.

Hope this helps.

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Not today I dont. I'm down 1800 in 2 weeks.

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You're down 1800 in two weeks and passing up a free meal? You need to reevaluate.