Re: Confidence, define it and how does one get it.
 

Eat spinach.

Re: Confidence, define it and how does one get it.
 

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Specifically waiting tables is great.

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Jesus man. Your post makes me almost want to wait tables.

Re: Confidence, define it and how does one get it.
 

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Specifically waiting tables is great.

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thanks for the advice, but I don't think I'll be throwing away my engineering job to wait tables.

Melch

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Its pretty fun in the right environment. The staff gets lots of good inside jokes going and stuff. Plus, at the right place you make lots of cash and flirt with lots of girls each night. When I used to wait tables I would be in shock going to the bank w/ like 2k in cash. Since I started playing poker, though I look back at that and laugh...

There is a downside. One its tiring as hell. Two theres not much room for advancement except to bar staff. As good a friends as you make, theres lots of staff turn over and the more experienced servers follow around to each new hotspot restaurant as it opens. Also the hours are pretty grueling sometimes. And depending on where you work, you might get lots of bitch work.

Honestly though, you dont have to quit your job to wait tables, you can do it part time a few nights a week. It might be hard at first to get the good shifts but after a while you just have to speak up and get the weekend nights.

-JP

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It's like this dude: success with the ladies is all about the perfect pick up line.

First a little human nature: There's nothing in this world that anyone likes to talk about more than they like to talk about themselves. So whatever line you use, make it a question about her. But steer away from the boring or clichéd ones: "Where do you work?" "Do you come here often?" "What's a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?" There's a better approach, and one that'll not only kick open the door of conversation but cast you in a favorable light, too.

Ask her something like, "What do you do that you like?" This immediately gets her talking about something that gets her excited, and it also makes it clear to her that you're not the usual unimaginative troll she's used to running into. For even more finesse, try, "What puts a light in your eye?" This tells her you've got romance in your soul, not ever a bad thing. To take a more intellectual/philosophical approach, ask, "What's the most important thing you know?" or "What do you believe in?" That shows her you're deep, and gives her a chance to get deep right along with you.


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Re: Confidence, define it and how does one get it.
 

This gimmick account has much promise.

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The key to having confidence is believing that you're better than everyone you ever come in contact with.

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Listen to Clubbed To Death from the Matrix Soundtrack every morning very loud.

Re: Confidence, define it and how does one get it.
 

If you can't figure it out yourself, do this:
Determine who's really got it and emulate that person.
Act as if until it becomes true. It will become true.