Just another sorry thirty-something!
 

Ok, so here is my dilema: I have been married for 13 years, and my wife seems to have no sex drive at all. When I say none, I mean we have sex on average about once per quarter!

Now here is the thing. I am not your everday macho-idiot who only seeks one thing (although it would be nice to get that one thing). I am a stay at home dad who cooks, cleans, plays soccer-dad, coaches, gives the wife back rubs, and sends her off on girls weekends and happy hours.

Is there anything I can do short of an affair or divorce that will allow me to have sex in my relationship again (and no, masturbation does not count - sorry guys).

Thanks for any suggestions in advance.

And to any ladies who actually lurk in this place, it would be nice to get your side of things even moreso.

Re: Just another sorry thirty-something!
 

I don't know, try talking to her about?

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See a sex therapist? Have you talked to her about why you don't have sex anymore?

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I don't know, try talking to her about?

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seriously, if you haven't had a conversation about this you need help.

and we're not going to be able to help unless we know why she isn't giving it up.

"my uncle touched me" and "your nuts stink like hell" require totally different plans of attack.

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I don't know, try talking to her about?

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Ok, before I get 10 posters stating the obvious....yes, we have talked about this over and over. It generally comes down to her being stressed at work and such. This is why I tend to give her time to relax and re-energize with her friends and such.

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"my uncle touched me" and "your nuts stink like hell" require totally different plans of attack.

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This right here is pure genious!

Swede

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"my uncle touched me" and "your nuts stink like hell" require totally different plans of attack.

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This right here is pure genious!

Swede

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As much as I hate to admit it, I must agree! [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

Generally her argument is stress. I am a person who deals well with stress, so its hard for me to relate to this, however. I did get her a spa package not long ago, but that didn't seem to help much?

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I don't know, try talking to her about?

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Ok, before I get 10 posters stating the obvious....yes, we have talked about this over and over. It generally comes down to her being stressed at work and such. This is why I tend to give her time to relax and re-energize with her friends and such.

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I don't buy that. What is a better way to relieve stress than to have sex?

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Is this a recent, sudden, or gradual change?

If it happened over a relatively short period of time, seroiusly consider the fact that she's cheating on you. In any case, I'd also advise going to a marriage counselor/psychiatrist type of person. They'll be able to root out the problem - whether there's an acceptable solution is a whole other thing - and its easily worth the expense.

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I don't know, try talking to her about?

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Ok, before I get 10 posters stating the obvious....yes, we have talked about this over and over. It generally comes down to her being stressed at work and such. This is why I tend to give her time to relax and re-energize with her friends and such.

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I don't buy that. What is a better way to relieve stress than to have sex?

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I tend to agree, but apparently she doesn't.