We have a winner
 

ellipse_87 makes the most sense to me. In hindsight, I could have made everyone dance to my tune, especially raising the J on the turn. I would fold to a 3 bet or have position on the river if no 3 bet appeared. I should have been giving aggravation and tough choices to the table instead of getting aggravation OO relative P with other players still behind me.

It is easier to articulate now, though, than it was to act on the moment. Thanks for the input tho.

Re: To isolate or not to isolate, that is the question
 

Isolation is a preflop concept. You do it behind a single limper with a hand you might not otherwise raise with in order to get heads up. You do it because you think the of hands your opponent might play, your initiative, and your position give you a favorable advantage.

Live $2/$4 games play like $0.25/$0.50 online - you might get a better response in the micro forum.