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I've been working on my game lately and trying gets numbers from chicks at coffee shops. While I'm not a ladies man like TT or whoever, I'm also not a shy guy. Starting up a conversation and not having it go anywhere doesn't really bother me. What I DO have a problem with is that first few seconds where I spot a chick I'm interested in... I can't think of anything to say, and by the time I come up with something I have a hard time "pulling the trigger" and going up to her. I'd like something that I can just say right away to get me into the flow of things.

What are some standard opening lines that fellow OOTers use in my situation? And please, no corny pick up lines, I'm looking for something that people actually use.

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its all about saying somthing about them.

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Example?

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How about....."Hi."

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How about....."Hi."

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You must not get laid much. . .

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"Your nipple's showing."

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Ask for her opinion on something.

What do you like better, red M&Ms or green M&Ms.

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blake

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Mmm, golden suggestion Blake. Now run with it a little. You're standing next to this 8 in line. What specifically are you going to say?

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W-w-w-what kinda c-c-c-coffee you like t-t-to drink?

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"Hi! How's it going?" and a nice smile, as opposed to inane grin or evil leer. Watch carefully for any gladeye, and if it's there, you've got your shot.

I'm not kidding.

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W-w-w-what kinda c-c-c-coffee you like t-t-to drink?

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You're fired.

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"Hi! How's it going?" and a nice smile, as opposed to inane grin or evil leer.

I'm not kidding.

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Does that really work? It seems so... simple. I'll try it out tomorrow and give you a trip report. I have to say that despite my dashing good lucks, I have low expectations.

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How about....."Hi."

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You must not get laid much. . .

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Hey, he's not the one asking a bunch of p*ker players on an internet message board how to pick up chicks.

Also, you might wanna try "So, is that a venti double mocha half caf latte frappuccino with extra foam in your pocket, or are you just happy to see me?"

EDIT: And yes, just saying "Hi, how are you" works, suprisingly well, in fact.

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are you single?

yes. that was a bold question

i thought it was the most appropriate thing to say at the time.


--I saw this conversation go down between some guy and a random girl at the lineup in Future Shop. the conversation went on from there and then he got her number.....as she was telling him her number i wrote it down myself so i could call her later too. actually i didn't, but i should have.

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You must not get laid much. . .

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Says the guy asking a message board how to talk to girls....

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"Hi! How's it going?" and a nice smile, as opposed to inane grin or evil leer.

I'm not kidding.

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Does that really work? It seems so... simple. I'll try it out tomorrow and give you a trip report. I have to say that despite my dashing good lucks, I have bad expectations.

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To be honest, I can't be sure. I never approach women in this way, and have done this inadvertently twice in my life, but thought I was actually talking to someone I know. Both times, I could see interest in their eyes, but realised my mistake (both times I only saw the girl in profile at first, and it was a genuine mistake), but was caught off guard and just apologized for my mistake and left it. I felt bad about one of them, cos she looked quite despondent as I backed away, made a sad face, and said quite sweetly, "oh, that's alright, I really don't mind..." (I was seeing someone, if any of you are wondering why I left the scene). I think she thought I was doing a line, seen her properly, and changed my mind...

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"Hi! How's it going?" and a nice smile, as opposed to inane grin or evil leer.

I'm not kidding.

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Does that really work? It seems so... simple. I'll try it out tomorrow and give you a trip report. I have to say that despite my dashing good lucks, I have low expectations.

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If I did roll with this one. I would just sit down at her table (acting like i'm supposed to be there) while I said it. She'll be confused cause you know, who the hell does this guy think he is. Then hope she reopens the conversation before I have to.

Just act like you run the place. Alot of the time I just do stuff to see how the girl will react. If she is reacting at all its good.

Try to always be happy to

blake

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how about "i really like your shirt"

note: shirt can be substituted for shoes, dress, fingernails, socks, or breasts

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as she was telling him her number i wrote it down myself so i could call her later too. actually i didn't, but i should have.

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Let's say that you did, in fact, call that woman. What would you say? I'm not sure that the whole "Hi, how are you" bit would go over so well as it would probably be followed by "Yeah, um, I don't know you, and we've never met, but I overheard you giving your number to some guy, so I wrote it down and thought I'd call you."

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Mmm, golden suggestion Blake. Now run with it a little. You're standing next to this 8 in line. What specifically are you going to say?

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I dunno, if she said green, I would say something stupid like, "no, nope, thats just not gonna work. I read green M&Ms cause cancer. Did you know that?"

For god sakes shed have to at least smile or give some reaction then. Then you can start talking about whatever else that interst you, the book she is reading or something. Try to make sure the conversation isn't too mundane, and give her a little bit of a hard time. Dont compliment her and tell her she is pretty or anything goofy.

blake

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as she was telling him her number i wrote it down myself so i could call her later too. actually i didn't, but i should have.

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Let's say that you did, in fact, call that woman. What would you say? I'm not sure that the whole "Hi, how are you" bit would go over so well as it would probably be followed by "Yeah, um, I don't know you, and we've never met, but I overheard you giving your number to some guy, so I wrote it down and thought I'd call you."

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i wasn't saying i didn't call her. i was saying i didn't write her number down...that would be creepy. but i should have because it would have been funny

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here's one i used at the campus bar once.

it was about the middle of the night and we were leaving. there was this girl at the door. i said hi, and she smiled back and said hi. then i said "alright my friends and i are leaving right now but here's what's going to happen. when i run into you next on campus we're gonna go get a coffee, ok?"

she was like "what are the chances of that?!?! why don't you just take my number right now"

sold. too easy.

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"Hi! How's it going?" and a nice smile, as opposed to inane grin or evil leer.

I'm not kidding.

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Does that really work? It seems so... simple. I'll try it out tomorrow and give you a trip report. I have to say that despite my dashing good lucks, I have low expectations.

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If you look okay, are clean and reasonably well-dressed, and don't just dribble, have a voice like Mr Bean, hum to yourself or say something like 'who you callin a psycho?' as the follow up, I'd say very good chances. And welcome to the next part of your life. Have fun now!


PS. make 'Confidence not ego' your watchwords.

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Ralph Wiggum's line to Lisa still rates as an all time smooth classic:

Ralph: So, do you like...stuff?

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If a girl came up to you in a coffee shop what would she need to say to have a chance with you?

My point exactly.

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Ralph Wiggum's line to Lisa still rates as an all time smooth classic:

Ralph: So, do you like...stuff?

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A friend of mine told us to watch as he tried this one on various girls for our amusement. Most of the girls didn't know whether to laugh or feel sorry for him, and in general looked really confused. It actually got a conversation going a couple of times though.

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"Hi, I don't come here often. What do you think of their _______"

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If a girl came up to you in a coffee shop what would she need to say to have a chance with you?

My point exactly.

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this is a good concept

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If a girl came up to you in a coffee shop what would she need to say to have a chance with you?

My point exactly.

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this is a good concept

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Agreed.

They are just people, just like us men.

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i dont know, but i think for guys, this is highly dependent on how attractive the girl is.

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yes but your standards drop significantly i think. for example you may see a girl at the coffee shop and think 'meh, i'm not going to bother approaching her, she's an average jane'

but if she comes up to you, then you think 'wow, this is too easy, may as well go for another tally'

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"are you single?"

"Are you seeing anyone" is the way I'd put it, wouldn't open with it though. Not that I care if she's seeing anyone anyway since I don't do relationships.

I usually let off a "hey, how's it going" or just a "hey" or "hi".

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Another one that isn't bad is, "Hey, I was wondering, could I ask you something?" If she looks interested, then follow up with some sort of complex question, like... "I need a woman's perspective on something. My friend just called and said his girlfriend is really upset because he still talks to his ex sometimes, even though they're just friends. Is that something that really bothers most women?"

Or whatever. Bam, you're in a conversation.

If she doesn't look interested when you approach, ditch off to a question that allows her to cleanly end the discussion, like "Do you know what's good here?" If she answers still disinterested, just say thanks and go order or something. But even here, you might find your original read was off and you can continue from there.

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I often opened to girls in bars and stuff with 'you look interesting, can I talk to you for a bit?'

It sounds lame, but there you go. And yes, they did look interesting to me, if you're wondering


I'd also try and get them guessing what I did for a job, and when it turned to what they did, I'd ask to feel their hands (on the pretext of using it as a way to guess), and touch their fingers very delicately but firmly, if that makes sense (your pretext is callouses etc, but you say stuff like 'oh your skin is so soft and delicate...' stuff). And usually continued talking while still rubbing their hands gently with mine.

Damn, I used to be smooth...

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That sounds way better than my usual technique of asking them to pull a bucket off my head.

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Says the guy asking a message board how to talk to girls

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Mmm... touché

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I often opened to girls in bars and stuff with 'you look interesting, can I talk to you for a bit?'

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Mmm... I don't know about that one... it gives away a ton of personal power and basically communicates that I'm a wuss / pushover, which I'm not. Good suggestions otherwise.

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here's one i used at the campus bar once.

it was about the middle of the night and we were leaving. there was this girl at the door. i said hi, and she smiled back and said hi. then i said "alright my friends and i are leaving right now but here's what's going to happen. when i run into you next on campus we're gonna go get a coffee, ok?"

she was like "what are the chances of that?!?! why don't you just take my number right now"

sold. too easy.

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I really like this one and might just have to try it

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Mmm... I don't know about that one... it gives away a ton of personal power and basically communicates that I'm a wuss / pushover, which I'm not. Good suggestions otherwise.

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I never had a 'no' at this point, it's complimentary without addressing appearance (which is the usual guy thing and something lots of women have built immunity to). And it's very, very quickly forgotten once the talking starts, as it's quite neutral.

So unless American women are very different from English women, I'd be very surprised this isn't a good opener for you.

We need Dom or women to give a proper view on this...

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Blake's suggestions are genius. I shudder to think at the amount of warm poonany the man will enjoy before his time is up.

Diebitters "Hi, how's it going," while not particularly inventive, does have a sort of elegant simplicity. I'll definitely be trying that one tomorrow.

"Are you single?" I've actually used that one before on this chick at a store near my former job. Worked pretty well, although the chick had a boyfriend. Definitely provoked a positive reaction.

Props to housenuts for excellent contributions to the thread. And Blarg, despite choosing to act like a smartass, has made me laugh so props to him too.

Themanpower's seems like it could work, but I have to say that's not really my style.

Madtown's post is very good.

Thanks everyone for the excellent suggestions.