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How many of you know married couples (or are yourselves) thirty and over that neither have kids, nor are trying/have tried to have kids? I'm not sure that I know anyone that fits. If that's typical, there's probably a lot of reasons why; what do you think are the biggest ones?

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They don't the responsibility and/or don't want to bring a child into this effed up world!

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I mean why don't I (or you) know any married 30+ couples who decided they don't want kids?

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Too damn busy...

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biology is strong

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People who don't want kids don't get married. They just date or live together.

I can't imagine marrying someone without the intention of having kids.

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I can't imagine marrying someone without the intention of having kids.

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Gay people feel differently.

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The couple I know are in their fifties. She didn't really care either way and he preferred not to. They are both really busy, he's a lawyer/accountant and she's a university instructor. They also love to travel.

I think it's mainly that they didn't want to give up their lives to have children.

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I guess you/they would have to.

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I guess you/they would have to.

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No they wouldn't.

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It can be very hard to have a hardcore career going if you're having kids, especially for the first half dozen years or so, till they get into school. Unless you're perfectly fine with basically seeing them only on weekends and letting them be raised substantially by someone else, say a grandma or a nanny or something. A kid can be a dream and career-derailer like no other.

So I can see, and have seen, some especially ambitious couples put off childbearing for a good long time.

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I can't imagine marrying someone without the intention of having kids.



Gay people feel differently.



I guess you/they would have to.



No they wouldn't.

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Last I heard, guys could not get other guys pregnant and girls could not get other girls pregnant. But I suppose these sort of couples could adopt or hire surrogates or something.

But my original statement was how I felt. I was not generalizing about the rest of you or some small subset of the population.

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I can't imagine marrying someone without the intention of having kids.



Gay people feel differently.



I guess you/they would have to.



No they wouldn't.

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Last I heard, guys could not get other guys pregnant and girls could not get other girls pregnant. But I suppose these sort of couples could adopt or hire surrogates or something.

But my original statement was how I felt. I was not generalizing about the rest of you or some small subset of the population.

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Your argument assumes they have to want to get married. Thanks for the anatomy lesson though.

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My wife and I were a married couple both over 30 for about 4 months until we got pregnant.