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i have decided i do not want to go out again with this girl after i already agreed to a second date. is it possible to get out of the second date ?(no plans made yet)
how?

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tell her you have to wash your hair ?

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tell her you have to wash your hair ?

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ahahahah. ok gorie, you are a decent poster, i will admit it.

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just tell her you're gay.

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just tell her you're gay.

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And then tell her it's her fault.

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just tell her you're gay.

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And then tell her it's her fault.

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lol this sounds like a really good plan. she was pretty sweet though, i do not want to make her sad.

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Well, there's this thing I've heard about called honesty...

Or, you could tell her you're getting back together with your ex...

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And then tell her it's her fault.

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lol this sounds like a really good plan. she was pretty sweet though, i do not want to make her sad.

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i dunno, i know these situations are tough as well but if you really have respect for her i think the best thing to do is to tell her the truth that you're just not into her, or at least tell her you're not ready to get involved w/ anyone.

i mean to do this but usually i just ignore their phone calls and they hate me.

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if you really have respect for her

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i do not really respect or care about her, but i do not want to be a dick about it just because i dont like acting like a dick. i would rather lie to save her feelings because i think she would take it hard.

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just ignore their phone calls and they hate me.

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this sounds like the plan so far.

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mabye give her some bs line about wanting to see her but not being ready due to some traumatic thing in your recent past... play it right, she won't bother u but might come running any time you call for a bit of late night company.

not my game, but works for some

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Tell her that you'll meet up, but only if you can go to a really nice restaurant that serves human flesh.

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Tell her that you'll meet up, but only if you can go to a really nice restaurant that serves human flesh.

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then ask her opinion on child pornography.

if she wonders why, just tell her you were thinking about veal.

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For Pete's sake...is everyone slow here?

Just say, "I thought we could have a nice dinner, then have ass-sex. Can I stick it in your pooper?"

If that doesn't get you out of the date, at least you have butt-sex as a consolation.

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Put it in her pooper.

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First, I win...

Second, he's trying to AVOID the date. If he goes back door, that means he's on the date. He has to threaten Pooper Invasion, with the intent of not using it.

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Ask her if she's familiar with "menage a trois".

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I have a good idea. Since you haven't made plans yet, do something like go out to a movie. You won't have to talk to her that much, and it could be something that you really enjoy (without the social pressure of a "date")

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What Augie said. Movie and a blow job. No talkie.

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this is very stupid...

if you don't care about her, and don't want to see her again? what's the problem? just tell her straight out, and that's that.

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this is very stupid...

if you don't care about her, and don't want to see her again? what's the problem? just tell her straight out, and that's that.

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He's afraid that he will hurt her feelings. Some guys don't like to hurt the feelings of a girl. It might be bad for his karma, anyway.

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this is very stupid...

if you don't care about her, and don't want to see her again? what's the problem? just tell her straight out, and that's that.

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He's afraid that he will hurt her feelings. Some guys don't like to hurt the feelings of a girl. It might be bad for his karma, anyway.

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Daryn is right. He will hurt her more by stringing her along. If he just keeeps coming up with excuses she will be left wondering whether or not the excuses were real or if he just doesn't like her. If he just shoots her down up front, she can move on more quickly.

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this is very stupid...

if you don't care about her, and don't want to see her again? what's the problem? just tell her straight out, and that's that.

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He's afraid that he will hurt her feelings. Some guys don't like to hurt the feelings of a girl. It might be bad for his karma, anyway.

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Daryn is right. He will hurt her more by stringing her along. If he just keeeps coming up with excuses she will be left wondering whether or not the excuses were real or if he just doesn't like her. If he just shoots her down up front, she can move on more quickly.

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The only reason i want to be nice about it is because i already agreed to a second date. I think me agreeing to it and just breaking it off the next day is kinda dick.
But you are right, i want to make it clear I do not want to see her again.

I am thinking something like...
"Dear xxxxxxx

I do not think we should go out again.

Sincerly,
DBowling"

is this ok? or do i need to give a specific reason?

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Give her a ring as opposed to an e-mail.

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Give her a ring as opposed to an e-mail.

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He doesn't even want to go out with her, let alone propose.

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He doesn't even want to go out with her, let alone propose.

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lmao

Am i really obligated to give her a call after as little as one date?

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He doesn't even want to go out with her, let alone propose.

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lmao

Am i really obligated to give her a call after as little as one date?

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I wouldn't say obligated, it would just be the nice thing to do.

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"Dear xxxxxxx

I do not think we should go out again.

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if someone sent me a letter like that i'd be in love. that's really sexy.

you might want to give her some kind of reason (without being mean) or she'll start her life long quest to get you in her pooper. i am serious.

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i am serious.

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Are you really? I do not understand why. Also, my reasons are not "good" and would probably make her feel worse. Can i make something up? Can you guys make something up for me?

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i am serious.

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Are you really? I do not understand why. Also, my reasons are not "good" and would probably make her feel worse. Can i make something up? Can you guys make something up for me?

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Why don't you want to go?

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i am serious.

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Are you really? I do not understand why. Also, my reasons are not "good" and would probably make her feel worse. Can i make something up? Can you guys make something up for me?

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Why don't you want to go?

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Im not attracted to her and she seems too clingy too soon.

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i am serious.

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Are you really? I do not understand why. Also, my reasons are not "good" and would probably make her feel worse. Can i make something up? Can you guys make something up for me?

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Why don't you want to go?

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Im not attracted to her and she seems too clingy too soon.

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If she's that type of girl I assume that she wouldn't pick up on the "my friend came in from out town" hint, so you can't really use that. I would just call her up, apologize sincerely, and say that you really didn't feel the attraction. Selective honesty works for me in all situations in life.

Edit- just so you realize, I'm a 17 year old with not too much experience with women, I just am pretty smart when dealing with people in real life.

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if someone sent me a letter like that i'd be in love. that's really sexy.


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Dear gorie,

I was wondering if anyone sent you a letter like this yet. I do not think we should go out again.

Sincerly,
DBowling

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I would just call her up, apologize sincerely, and say that you really didn't feel the attraction. Selective honesty works for me in all situations in life.

Edit- just so you realize, I'm a 17 year old with not too much experience with women, I just am pretty smart when dealing with people in real life.

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Im very non-confrontational. It took me 3+ months to break up with my last gf.

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Are you really? I do not understand why.

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i guess my reason for saying that is that i'm attracted to things i can't have, and i like abuse.

this one guy i know is really sexy when he decides he is too cool to talk to me. which is 90% of the time. then 9% of the time he is talking to me, but being mean.. yet i keep wanting to hump him?

am i serious about her really finding that attractive ? not really. but depending on the girl, there is a possibility of it leaving her wondering why, to the point of bugging you trying to 'fix something'. which then of course leads to you getting annoyed and having to say "LISTEN, YOU'RE UGLY, AND YOU ARE CLINGY, STOP BUGGING ME" and then she cries.

i'd say best thing to do is call/email (did you actually make plans for your second date?) and say something like "hey, i've been thinking and i'm gonna have to cancel our date, it was nice meeting you but i'm not ready for a relationship." ?

or just ignore her calls like most guys would. i'm sure she'd figure it out.. regardless of what you do, i'm sure she'll get over it.

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i'd say best thing to do is call/email (did you actually make plans for your second date?) and say something like "hey, i've been thinking and i'm gonna have to cancel our date, it was nice meeting you but i'm not ready for a relationship." ?

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we never made plans for the second date. i think this is a good idea. thank you gorie.

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If you've never made plans, just don't answer your phone when she calls, simple as that...

She'll get the point, they always do.

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I'm with Daryn on this one: Just call her up and tell her the truth. If she's the type who takes such things hard, she's going to take it hard no matter what you do. So you might as well be honest.

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This is from her myspace today:

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aint nothing but stars for miles

Current mood: giddy


i had an amazing night last night. it was beyond me.


theres a melody in my head and i aint stopped hummin' since i saw your face


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i feel like such a jerk already

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This is from her myspace today:

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aint nothing but stars for miles

Current mood: giddy


i had an amazing night last night. it was beyond me.


theres a melody in my head and i aint stopped hummin' since i saw your face


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i feel like such a jerk already

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Would it really be that bad to give a courtesy date and then break it off from there? Hell, you might even have a good time.

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Would it really be that bad to give a courtesy date and then break it off from there? Hell, you might even have a good time.

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i feel like this would be stringing her on. i will email her later tonight and be done with it.