How do you get over screwing up?
 

Whether it be incorrectly calling an all in for your whole stack, getting a traffic ticket, being expelled from school, caught cheating by wife, etc.

How do you get over that awful feeling?

Re: How do you get over screwing up?
 

Accept your action for what it is. Acknowledge the pain you have caused and do your best to make amends. Once you clear your conscience, time has a way of making the pain go away.

Re: How do you get over screwing up?
 

Worse comes to worst, I tell myself "it could be worse."

Blow my stack with a bad call? It could be worse. I could have never accumulated that stack to begin with and had the opportunity to play. Remember, the next best thing to playing and winning is playing and losing.

Got a traffic ticket? It could be worse. I could have gotten in a wreck.

Got expelled from school (or in my case, fired?) It could be worse. I could be unable to go to school or work to support myself.

Got caught cheating? (I've never cheated, and I hope I never do.) It could be worse. I could be so ugly/stupid/whatever that no woman would ever want to be with me. She slapped me and burned all my stuff? Could be worse, I could have gotten the Bobbitt.

I think Trump said it best: "I don't have time to worry about what happened or what I could have done differently. That just wastes time that should be spent on planning what I'll do from that point forward."

FWIW - hope this helps.

ScottieK

Re: How do you get over screwing up?
 

I have a fool proof solution for you.

1. You need to play naked at your computer.
2. You need to have a strong elastic right there next to your computer with you.
3. Every time you make a play that is idiotic snap yourself HARD right in the nads with the elastic.

Re: How do you get over screwing up?
 

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3. Every time you make a play that is idiotic snap yourself HARD right in the nads with the elastic.

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LMAO...

And if that doesn't do it, try a small hammer.

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Re: How do you get over screwing up?
 

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3. Every time you make a play that is idiotic snap yourself HARD right in the nads with the elastic.

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LMAO...

And if that doesn't do it, try a small hammer.

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but don't forget the nail!

Re: How do you get over screwing up?
 

sex, drugs, and rock n' roll.

U can quasi do these things while playing poker if u try hard enough.

Re: How do you get over screwing up?
 

Getting expelled from school or caught cheating by the wife seem like rather bigger deals than calling all-in for a stack of chips.

Re: How do you get over screwing up?
 

AA,

For cash games, I review all my big winners & losers after a session. If I remember correct you play SNGs, so if I were you I'd consider looking over as many bubble sessions as possible.

Re: How do you get over screwing up?
 

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Whether it be incorrectly calling an all in for your whole stack, getting a traffic ticket, being expelled from school, caught cheating by wife, etc.


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Wow, you have had a busy week.

Re: How do you get over screwing up?
 

You're extremely honest with yourself, it seems. The answers to this - and your other post about 'wasting time' - are in your spirituality, I think. Very good advice about developing good eating habits and getting some exercise (not necessarily a great deal). That may help a lot with your physical self, which is very important. Also explore your spiritual self. Many highly intelligent people find their intellect getting in the way of their ability to believe. I suggest reading C.S Lewis "Mere Christianity".

In the end, whatever "screw-ups" you are feeling badly about are probably not very important in the grand scheme of things.... As put so well in another good book: "Don't sweat the small stuff. And it's all small stuff"

Re: How do you get over screwing up?
 

Drinking heavily. And hookers. Preferably not transvestite hookers. But if so, more drinking.

Seriously, I just chalk it up to learning and move on. This often pisses off my wife to no end that I have this approach, but I am unable to dwell on things unless it will help me. So the part about making a bad all-in call, I might dwell on that. Being expelled, a speeding ticket, kinky sex with the babysitter...I already know I shouldn't do these things. When I get caught, it doesn't change that.

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This should be the case for any of your decisions. As in poker, you should learn to dissociate decisions and results whenever any sort of risk is involved. Life is usually about imperfect information; therefore, you cannot be concerned with an imperfect result. Concentrate on your decision. Just stick to making correct decisions and don't get emotional about the results. This is quite possible the most important thing I've learned from poker.

Re: How do you get over screwing up?
 

Aversion therapy is very effective in many cases!!!