so what do I do about this girl?

[revlis87]

freshman in college... a bit dissapointed in the quality of the girl at my big 10 school compared to what i thought it would be ... go to a few frat parties etc and find generally dumb JAP girls who I can't stand. about a month ago i meet a girl on the bus. we hit it off, evenntually hang out, get stoned together, and hook up. I really like her - sweet, smart (sort of) and somehow i (libertarian) find her (social worker bs) cool... so after a few times hooking up i find out she is a virgin and basically that i am not gonna get any for awhile... she subtly hints that it is because we are just hooking up and not "officially dating." So i say [censored] it, I will date her and see what happens i got nothing to lose. About 2-3 weeks since then i find this girl painfully annoying. Im still not getting any ass, she callls me all the time, etc. Buut there are positives. For example, i can always have something remotely fun to do when i hang out wiht her at night. Especially when its cold outside etc, that is cool. She isnt incredibly clingy, she just calls a lot and I blow her off. Anyway, so in certain regards i really dislike her. in other regards she makes my life easier. Winter break is coming up so i assume i will just let it go until then and make a decision about what to do.

What does OOT think?

For the record, she is about a 6.5-7 on looks.

[dblgutshot]

go to more frat parties take it up the pooper. maybe ask one of the dumb JAP girls to use a strap-on.

[scotty34]

pics

[astroglide]

[RubberDucky]

how do you find her painfully annoying yet fun to hang out with?

[siccjay]

It means hitting it.

[astroglide]

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It means hitting it.

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this is my perspective too, which made the OP look funny to me

[MyTurn2Raise]

Ok, I know quite a bit about this [censored].
Use the chick to get other chicks. When you're in a relationship, you're hot to most college skanks.

Slowly pull away from the girl in question. This will either a: make her jealous enough to give it up or b: redefine new boundaries for your friendship.

Be desireless
Be excellent
Be gone

Don't burn bridges, ie be an [censored] to said girl. She seemed like good friend/hook-up material when you guys saw each other less. She just isn't miss wonderful for being around all the time. Move your friendship to that better balance of hanging out some, but not all the time.

Don't get trapped into one-itis. College is the best opportunity of your life. I dated a girl for 15 months or so while at school and it was such a [censored] waste compared to the rest of the time even with that ladyfriend being quite cool.

Generally when a friend tells me simply that he hooked up (were in our late 20's), it means he went to a bar and there was some kissing and groping, and little else.

To the OP, I ask for a little more info:

Are you simply asking whether or not it's worth your time to get laid by this girl? Your posting it here tells me I already know the answer to that, though. Also, what about her is painfully annoying? Calling you all the time is something they all do, and it's always annoying, unless every call is her telling you to come over and stuff her.

[Dynasty]

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It means hitting it.

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this is my perspective too, which made the OP look funny to me

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I've heard it used both ways plenty of times.

[FouTight]

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It means hitting it.

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this is my perspective too, which made the OP look funny to me

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I've heard it used both ways plenty of times.

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yes, but any use out of high school should be straight intercourse, and nothing short.

[MyTurn2Raise]

This is like the Chuddo "sleep" with argument

Yes...I read that thread over again today.

I'm on vacation and it still amuses the hell out of me.

[masse75]

I think I'm going to suggest a "Wank about girl problems" space in the Forum Suggestions. About every 10th thread is one of these.

[slickpoppa]

Stay with her for a little while. Make her think that she is in love with you and you will be able to bang her pretty soon. A lot of girls decide thatfreshman year of college is finally time to give it up. Then dump her. This achieves two things:
1) you get laid
2) you will look more attractive to other girls because you had a girlfriend, enabling you to upgrade

[PokerFink]

So you're with a girl that:

a) You don't like
b) Doesn't put out
c) Is not exceptionally hot

And you need to ask what to do?

Is this a joke or are you just dense. You find her annoying and she doesn't put out, but you wonder what to do. Go ask one of the Jap girls if they find you annoying or just offensive.

[SmileyPSU]

First instinct is that you go to Penn State....if so, congratulations. If not, sorry, sucks for you.

Regarding your situation, I'm not quite sure what you are looking for after reading your post. It seems like your priorities fluctuate between big banging, and having a worthwhile girlfriend.

If sex is priority number one, no matter if you're at PSU or some other Big 10 school, break away from this girl....as long as you go to college, big 10, big 12, SEC, whatever, sex isn't hard to find.

But if this girl is someone whose company you really enjoy, let her take her time. I guarantee you it will be worth it in the end. She's been "pure" for what 18 19 years? it's a big step for her. and a truly great girl is worth alot more than any single big bang is. Much more rewarding.

just my two cents.

you a PSU student? if not, I apologize for beating that azz, football style

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But if this girl is someone whose company you really enjoy, let her take her time. I guarantee you it will be worth it in the end. She's been "pure" for what 18 19 years? it's a big step for her. and a truly great girl is worth alot more than any single big bang is. Much more rewarding.



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Its called reading comprehension. He finds her annoying.

Dump that bitch. You can spend 30 minutes on myspace typing bullsht and you will get more action.

Bright,

Excellent response and excellent advice.

Perrier

[StacysMom]

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It means hitting it.

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this is my perspective too, which made the OP look funny to me

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I always thought of it this way too, even in highschool. Anything less than penetration is making out/ BJ/Oral or what ev. Hooking up = sex, i think anal would count also. My new roomate tells me about hooking up all the time, I thought he was being a pimp, until I found out hooking up in his vocabulary did not mean sex.

So i guess both meanings are acceptable, but the lesser meaning makes me think u must be pathetic.

[Alobar]

uhm, wtf is your problem? If you dont like her dump her....are you just waiting around to try and get some sex? You do realize its going to be crappy sex right?

Stop being a tool, [censored] dump her already so she can actually find someone who cares about her for her first time, and then you can go back to reading "catcher in the rye"

[captZEEbo1]

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=hooking+up

I always envisioned "hooking up" as a sort of plug and socket that literally hooked up.

[zephed]

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Is this a joke or are you just dense. You find her annoying and she doesn't put out, but you wonder what to do. Go ask one of the Jap girls if they find you annoying or just offensive.

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I'm pretty sure he is referring to J.A.P.'s (Jewish American Princess) and not Japanese girls.

[young nut]

When did OOT turn into a 10th grade lunch table? Seriously guys, quit asking these very easy to figure out chick questions. especially when you know what the answers are going to be.

Oh, and hooking up means bumpin uglies.

[young nut]

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Is this a joke or are you just dense. You find her annoying and she doesn't put out, but you wonder what to do. Go ask one of the Jap girls if they find you annoying or just offensive.

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I'm pretty sure he is referring to J.A.P.'s (Jewish American Princess) and not Japanese girls.

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Jewish American Princess, laff, thats a new one to me. Wouldn't surprise me at a Big 10 school though. Are those the type of chicks that are on that Sweet 16 show on MTV?

[MyTurn2Raise]

get drunk and call her


oh yeah, practice your game on myspace and facebook

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uhm, wtf is your problem? If you dont like her dump her....are you just waiting around to try and get some sex? You do realize its going to be crappy sex right?

Stop being a tool, [censored] dump her already so she can actually find someone who cares about her for her first time, and then you can go back to reading OOT posts about what you should do after you dump her.

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FYP. My thoughts exactly.

ScottieK

[Andrew Fletcher]

This thread is meaningless without pictures.

So, the two problems are that she calls a lot (and doesn't get mad when you hit ignore) and that she is a virgin. Those aren't really big problems, unless you're kind of a dick. Just give her a little time and you'll start having sex. She sounds like a cool girl. I think in the long-term stability is always better than crazy fantasy.

[Andrew Fletcher]

Harsh!

[bugstud]

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First instinct is that you go to Penn State....if so, congratulations. If not, sorry, sucks for you.

Regarding your situation, I'm not quite sure what you are looking for after reading your post. It seems like your priorities fluctuate between big banging, and having a worthwhile girlfriend.

If sex is priority number one, no matter if you're at PSU or some other Big 10 school, break away from this girl....as long as you go to college, big 10, big 12, SEC, whatever, sex isn't hard to find.

But if this girl is someone whose company you really enjoy, let her take her time. I guarantee you it will be worth it in the end. She's been "pure" for what 18 19 years? it's a big step for her. and a truly great girl is worth alot more than any single big bang is. Much more rewarding.

just my two cents.

you a PSU student? if not, I apologize for beating that azz, football style

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my first, instant guess is UMich. anything else doesn't make a whole lot of sense.

[lu_hawk]

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It means hitting it.

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this is my perspective too, which made the OP look funny to me

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It might be regional because in NJ when you say 'hooking up' it usually means specifically less than sex, so if someone says 'I hooked up with her' you know that no sex was involved. If sex was involved then you need to say something like 'banged' or 'nailed'.

[Andrew Fletcher]

I thought he had fun hanging out with her, but that she calls a little too much. That's not exactly the same as finding her annoying.

IMO, it has a lot more to do with OP than the girl.

[astroglide]

my impression from this is largely based on reality television, i think. every time 'hook up' is mentioned between cast members, it specifically means 'they had sex'.

[Alex Levin]

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It might be regional because in NJ when you say 'hooking up' it usually means specifically less than sex, so if someone says 'I hooked up with her' you know that no sex was involved. If sex was involved then you need to say something like 'banged' or 'nailed'.

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This is true for me as well. Usually, 'hooked up' means specifically, 'made out with' and little else. I'm from PA, and I haven't even known of the alternative meaning until very recently.